I have absolutely NO desire. I have been divorced for 20 yrs and have 3 kids so I don't date, not time, it's probably a good thing, because he would be very sexually frustrated.

Its something we either like to begin with love or hate........ Since going through menopause I have to make a real effort but i have a fab partner who understands, if i had my way i would rather have fish and chips and a cuppa oh strong tea rather than sex.


Mary (gypsylass)

Yes I am having sex and enjoying it too. In fact when I am having a hormonal episode, it helps relax me. It is good therapy and good for the feel good chemicals in the brain. Go out and try it and see if it helps for the moment!!!!!

Thanks. I do enjoy it when were engaged. It's just hard to get started. My Husband is also understanding I just feel sorry for him sometimes, when he has to put up with my episodes from time to time. thank's all for your support, I really love this site. And all the wonderful people in it.

Same here! The desire just went away since I started menopause! I think that is common, along with headaches and 33 other things!! By the way, I also notice that at times my appetite for food is non-existent, especially after taking Imitrex for migraines. HOWEVER this is the BEST medicine ever for migraines! I highly recommend it (you can lose weight too!)Very expensive but it works!

We're about to celebrate our 11th anniversary and have not felt like having sex for the last 2 1/2 years...no, I DID have the urge once or twice, but that was it. Luckily,I also have a husband who is very understanding and accepting of the fact that I would much rather have my feet or back rubbed. What we do is I pleasure him, then he rubs my back or feet. He gets some satisfaction (so I don't feel guilty), and I get my aches attended to.
And we've saved a fortune on birth control!
Sorry if this isn't much help to you. Hope you and yours find a solution.

yes we are still having sex, but not with the frequency we did in out 20s.
have you had your hormone levels checked? are you under a lot of stress? do you suffer any vaginal dryness? or depression? all these things can take a bite out of your sex drive.

so many women say they have no desire.

Well am glad i am not the only one on here that loves and needs it more that now i am going threw this time in my life.

I really hade no idea about the cemesty that went along with it. But great!

It helpes and i need it every day but my husband he is not always in the mood.

I felt some change in desire after menopause, but I am now on HRT and it is great, but hubby can't keep up with me either littleshe. I need him on some testosterone. I heard men need a boost too and not as turned on by pics after 50. so like us need help from their partners.

Hello. I have completely lost my desire through perimenopause. I dont know if it comes back but it doesnt bother me at all. There is no man so it is not as problem. I can see it could be a problem though if there were a man.

So Iguess it is normal to feel that way. I am going to have my Hormones checked and then we'll see what the Gyn suggests. My Husband is pretty supportive and doe sunderstand. He is going through the Male Menopause too. so this is a joined effort. Thanks all.

A drop in libido at this time of our lives may be due in part to physical changes that can occur, including hormone changes, changes in vaginal tissue and lubrication, fatigue, sleep disturbances, hot flashes, night sweats, and increasing general health concerns. There are many herbs for improving libido, including damiana, Siberian ginseng, motherwort, ginko biloba, black cohosh, wild lettuce, and wild oats. Damiana has been around for centuries and really does work. I have a little bottle that a great friend makes up for me and I take a dropper or two full and I'm tellin ya - it works!
Hope this helps you - Bobbi

What isDamiana

Damiana is an herb that supposed to help with sexual desire. Think I'll get some. lol

Mary I Love that and Iam with you
Sorry no advice but I will say this its not what it use to be
LOL