Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Support Group
This community is a place where you can share your long distance challenges and triumphs, vent, give long distance tips and ideas, or just get support from people like you who are going through the same thing. Whether you live a couple hours away or a couple continents away, the specific challenges that face a long distance relationship are unique and difficult.
i'm met my partner eight years ago through mutual circles but never did we really see each other as partners because we both were in long-term relationships. In the last two years we both have become single from those said long term relationships . And for about eight months we have been seeing each other. everything about us is really great and healthy compared to my last relationship. The hardest thing is that we do not live in the same state. We both have left our hometown which was Denver in the last year but we are not in the same spot. He moved a little over a year ago and when him and I first started talking I had plans to move to southern California in October. I never expected our relationship to develop into what it is now. I've never loved someone and the way that I love him and in the past I haven't minded distance in my relationships even if we were living in the same state but with him it is really hard to be away from him and as time goes on and the more I love him.. it gets harder. I do battle with depression but I feel like lately it seems amplified when I am away from him. sometimes I find it's even hard to sleep. I've always considered myself a very independent person so feeling like this is a little out of my realm as well as my comfort zone. I joined this so that I could vent and hopefully relate to some of your stories.
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So mad at Xfinity! They're trying to charge me $115 per month for the same service I had been paying $50 the last four years. I took the equipment to UPS for shipping and cancelled my subscription today! Next door was a cookie shop called Crumbl. I had heard of it before but never went in until today. I don't need one more sugar fix, but maybe it will help with my sad) grieving heart....$15...
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Ever since I stopped doing therapy because of insurance, I've been feeling that old tense and irritable sense of anxiety and stress. I hate that. I was making so many strides and changes during therapy, my therapist would acknowledge all of my progress and accomplishments, and I miss that reassurance. Today I thought about it, and I made those changes! She would always tell me that I chose to...
How often do you two see each other now?
Yes, I would think this is not what you would hope the relationship could be, as in living in the same town, and that could definitely cause your depression to get worse at times.
I would suggest keeping an active social circle. See your friends, family... go out, have fun, live your life. When you and your boyfriend are not together, go out and do fun things with friends. Have hobbies that you like to do. Have a life outside this relationship.
Make sure you are getting exercise, sleep, eat healthy foods, have hobbies.... basically, take good care of yourself, because you don't want your depression to get worse. If you do feel your depression getting worse, ask yourself if the long distance is what is making you feel more down than usual. You might need to get into therapy, too, to learn how to navigate a LDR.
Basically, ask yourself for how long will this be a LDR (will one of you be moving to where the other one is, soon? And, when will that happen?). Long distance relationships can be challenging. There needs to be a really strong, loyal commitment to each other. And you need to want the same things, have the same goals... such as to live near each other and on the same timetable, etc.