I don't think you are being needy. Not at all.

Long distance relationships are tough, even under the best of circumstances.

He needs to find time on the weekends to talk to you. I don't care how busy he is at work, he has time to talk.

I don't blame you for thinking the worst if you don't hear from him, especially late at night. All of your feelings are valid.

Can you possibly see each other more often than once every 3 months? He should be traveling to see you any chance he can get. Not seeing each other that often causes the relationship to not move forward.

I was in a long distance relationship with a guy I was engaged to. We saw each other every weekend. And it still fell apart after about 2 years. Your guy needs to - find the time - to come see you. Even for short visits... doesn't matter. You two are a new couple, and need in-person time together. He can make it happen. Just ask him to come out more often. Sometimes, we need to come out and ask for what we want and need. People can't read our minds :)

Best thing to do for anxiety and otherwise, is you have your own, full life, too. Besides work, make sure you go out with your friends, spend time with your family, work out, hobbies..... Make sure you have a full life outside of this relationship. He seems to be having a full life, and you should, too!

I typed so much I forgot to mention if it is a really busy day he will call me and apologize and ask me about my day and talk to me. Never neglects me is what I should say. It was every month and a half we were seeing each there but we live about 1200 miles away from each other so flights have been getting a little pricey $300+ . In a few weeks when he is in between travels for work, his company will fly him out to me and he will stay with me whether that be weekends or weekdays which I work, but honestly seeing him after work will be better than nothing. I’m just trying to make it to that point without all of the anxiety. After work and on the weekends I don’t really do much so I get super lonely and I think that’s when I start needing him the most, but when I’m busy it helps so much

Yes, stay busy. Go out with your friends. See your family. Have hobbies that you enjoy. Go work out, hike, walk, jog, bike. Have your own full life.

Being busy will also give you more interesting things to talk about, besides talking about work stuff.

Yes, see each other more often. You are in a new relationship (not established yet), so seeing each other as often as possible is really important for the growth of this relationship.

Stay busy! You will have to figure out how to stay patient and calm to be in a long distance relationship. Not easy to do, I have been there. But you can do this.... good luck.

I am going to tell you to begin to disconnect from needing to talk to him daily. Begin to self sooth yourself. This is how long distance relationships work. You either trust him or you don't. It would help if you two could see each other more. Your anxiety is fear and there are ways to change how we think. When you get into anxiety or fear thinking, you must stop that. Actively say to yourself, oh hello anxiety. If the fear is he hasn't called today, then give yourself positive self talk rather than feeding the anxiety and fear. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can help change this fear thinking stuff. You have to trust him or realize that LDR are not good for you. This super lonely stuff is your not attending to your needs for socialization with other human beings. You must not allow him to be your whole world outside of work, this may be some codependence. All humans get lonely but we can change how we think about being alone. You are seeing being alone as bad and you get anxiety and lonely. Actively challenge your thinking on this. Don't just wallow in it. Start to find new activities, book clubs, church groups, social groups, hobby groups and join them. Call friends and talk about their lives so you aren't focusing on your own anxiety and fears. Respond to posts on Daily Strength and reassure and support other people as a way to change the focus of your mind on your own issues. We all have issues by the way, the secret is how we challenge our minds to think positively and healthily. And lastly, perhaps you two need to make a plan to move closer. Not move in together but live in the same area so you can date normally. Don't move in with him or have him move in with you. Find out now if he sees your relationship as lasting -- not in neediness of him or enmeshment but as a way to plan how coming together looks to you both. I realize it is early but this LDR is very hard on you and probably on him. You both are career minded right now and that means he can't be there all the time 24/7 for you, nor you for him. Even if you were married and living in the same house, this type of thing would make communication challenging at times and you'd have to work at it. Maybe you guys can set up zoom calls or face time calls twice a week at set times. Like every Monday or Thursday. Start finding things to do for your own social life on weekends. Get out and go for a walk in a park, go to movies alone, do things for you. This is your time to find out who you are and what you want in life. You can't do that waiting and hoping and putting all your anxiety on this relationship. In my LDR, we talked on the phone every day, way too much, and saw each other every 3 weeks. But we lived closer than you two do. It was hard but I also had to challenge myself to make my own social life and do things with friends on the weekend. I needed to have a separate me if that makes sense. I should not just be a sponge waiting for him to fill me like I did. We did marry after 2 years. I moved to his city when we married. If I did it again, I would not be so enmeshed with him. Now I recognize my codependence. We did have a break up halfway through and that was hard but also felt right as I initiated it. We both had time to think and decide if commitment was in our future. I wish you well, and I hope you can find an emotional balance within you. You are not wrong to long for him.