Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Support Group

This community is a place where you can share your long distance challenges and triumphs, vent, give long distance tips and ideas, or just get support from people like you who are going through the same thing. Whether you live a couple hours away or a couple continents away, the specific challenges that face a long distance relationship are unique and difficult.

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ButtonFlower
ButtonFlower

I am trying to set boundaries with my family about what is and is not acceptable when it comes to my LDR. They do not approve of much that I choose to do in my life outside of what they have dictated for me. They do not approve of my relationship becuase they do not understand how I could move away just for a guy. I am not fully sure if they disaprove of him or if its just the situation. Anyways I havee been working on a letter to them and im not sure if i am going to give it to them or not but I want to have it written as best as i can to get all my hurt feelings out and try to explain my side to them without having them yell at me. I know that they are stil hurt over how i handled things in the begining but i cant change the past i can only change the now. What are some of the things that you have said to your families about respecting your choices that you have made when its come to the LDR?

qt03
qt03
I told my parents how my boyfriend makes me feel. The fact that he is the only person in the world I can trust knowing all of the things about me. He has been super supportive. Most of all I made clear that LDRs are just like any other relationship minus the physical contact.
ButtonFlower
ButtonFlower
They just choose to pretend it is not happening. I am not in one, I am not planning on moving there none of it.
anonymoushun
anonymoushun
I told my parents that even though they might not understand it, my feelings are valid nonetheless. They said they couldn't possibly understand how someone can fall in love with someone else they've never met or are unable to share daily life experiences with. I questioned them that, if someone were to be hypothetically blind and unable to have physical contact with other people yet they are able to fall in love, are their feelings any less valid and real just because they are unable to physically connect with someone?
GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
Buttonflower,

How is it going now with your relationship?
ButtonFlower
ButtonFlower
My relationship is amazing we are still in a LDR which is mostly due to covid and trying to get this visa to go threw now that things are settling we are talking about closing the distance within the next year.
As for my family they seem to have come around because I kept putting my LDR infront of them not wanting to hide it from them in fear of what they might do. By doing this and setting the boundaries that this man and his kids are going to be my chosen family they are just as important as my genetic family if not some ways more cause I love them. They still are not happy about my choice but are not activly trying to ignore it so i mean STEPS!
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