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why dont positive people understand depression

bakerygirl727
bakerygirl727
im at a very low point in my life.where im living at,i have no close friends to talk to or get together with.my llfe has not always been this way,it has come to this point just this year.i go to work but consider my co workers just acquaintances.no one i can trust to open up to about how i feel.when .i am very alone and lonely.i have only my mom here and she is now in an assited living across town.i only get to see her on my days off from work.because my hours at work leave me no life .the rest of my family(my daughter and her family,and my brother and his family) live 3 hours away.i have requested a job transfer to that area,but nothing is coming open yet and im getting discouraged.im having financial problems as well.when i do try to talk to someone about how i feel,most times they don't understand what im feeling or going through,and tell me im being to negative.they just don't want to try to understand and that's when i give up trying to explain myself.i try so hard to have positive thoughts but some days are harder than others.i cry everyday from the loneliness.i would love to have someone to talk to that understands where im at in my life.would love to have a pen pal. if anyone can share any advice about how to deal with loneliness or needs someone to talk to ,please feel free to write me.my email address is sgatorchic2@yahoo.com
enigmaticloner
enigmaticloner
I ask myself that same question as well. People that are happy and positive don't seem to understand how it feels to be lonely and depressed. It's a horrible thing to deal with, I've been doing it for years and it's hard to imagine doing this for much longer.
billwfriend
billwfriend
you really should not have put your personal email here....it is against the rules of the road and if a CL sees it they will pull the post....

by the email address I am guessing in Florida but no info in profile I saw....email pals I can handle but the postage thing I do rarely because of cost...if you want to PM me about email friends I will do that or just send me a friend request and see what happens then?
bakerygirl727
bakerygirl727
I didn't know about the email thing.new to this site
wheretheredwoodsgrow
wheretheredwoodsgrow
Hello :-) I'm sorry life is so difficult at this time. I'm struggling with some bad lonliness as well. So If you ever want to message me you can. In the mean time are you able to maybe do some things just for yourself that you have not been able to? I also find it difficult for others to understand. :-( But you are reaching out to those who do :-)
lucillegem
lucillegem
thats the thing about positive people, they dont see the negative, right?
But, i think its not that they DONT SEE it, but they rather CHOOSE NOT TO. I mean everyone has their own problems. And thats the thing, like if someone came up to me and started expressing how they feel, I notice we natural start talking about our own problems. We are selfish. I came to realize... but i think thats okay. My advice for dealing with loneliness is that you dont need validation from anyone to know that you arent alone. I think when we try to scratch our emotionally needs on others it turns into something else. Sorry to say. I am not implying that we dont need to be socialized because we do, we need to feel we are loved and thats only natural. Have you ever thought, instead of thinking why are those people so damn positive and happy... of thinking of ways perhaps you can make yourself more happy? i know, it sounds so darn complicated! especially because of old habits and the need to feel sad. At times I dont even know how to feel... sometimes I think, Im overthinking which makes me feel overwhelmed about being alone. Its a thought pattern that needs to be changed :/ Anyways... Im rambling. My point is, Life is lonely thats a fact but if you are able to have one person in your life who loves you, you are lucky!
I hope you are able to spend time with your family, and its good you are reaching out here! I hope you have better days. warm hugs.
alice92
alice92
It's easy to write people off as "negative". Positive people most likely have never had struggles and are unwilling to accept that everyone else's life is not as perfect as theirs. It could also be that they just do not care about other people. And calling them names like "negative" is an excuse for their behavior and attitudes towards others who are hurting.
Bit47
Bit47
Hey there, I'm sorry you're feeling lonely and have no one. Sometimes, I think, it's not that people don't care but they're also going through things. They're just handling better than we are. But coming on here is a great place to talk and share. Also, doing things to take your mind off of YOU helps. When we're down, that's all we think about... US. Put yourself in their place. Do you want to be around a negative/depressed person or a happy/positive one? One will lift you up and the other will drag you down.

Do you have a partner, or date? Volunteer or go places where other people are? I love to talk to strangers when I go out. They're so surprised and always happy about it. I'm just trying to get them to laugh or smile. I think that maybe it might be the only time someone's been kind to them that day, or even that week or month. And it lifts my spirit probably more than I lift theirs.

I'd love to be your friend on here and you're welcome to message me anytime. :)
alice92
alice92
Bit47. We handle our shit just fine.

Not everyone has the same problems. Some people have legit depression with a biochemical disorder. Has nothing to do with thinking possitive.

BTW thanks for the extremely fucked up comment on my journal. You are so judgmental. I literally want to kill myself and you start fucking with me. You don't understand true deep pain if you'd say that shit to someone.
koolman
koolman
I don't know if such people are POSITIVE, they're just less sensitive, feel less acutely, perhaps aren't as empathetic, have a healthy or maybe not so healthy anger, and/or keep themselves so goddamn busy they don't have time to feel depressed. Maybe there's something to be learned from them-!
lavernaableton
lavernaableton
People who don't suffer from depression and who have never been lonely don't understand what it feels like to have those things and subsequently feel like everyone is the way they are. It's a horrible mindset to have but it's an easy mindset to fall into. Because it's easy to feel sad, and people liken being sad to depression, when it's not the same thing at all. I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope things get better for you. If you ever need anyone to talk to, please feel free to send me a message. I only log on once or twice a day so I may not get it right away but I will respond.
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