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Struggling with loneliness

Jujuju279
Jujuju279

Recently I have gone through multiple breakups and rejections and I have never been able to figure out the reason that the people rejecting me have been doing so. I ask them and they always say that it is nothing to do with me but it has been happening consistently so I feel that I am the common denominator in the situation and so the issue lies with me. They have told me that it is not because I’m not pretty enough or smart enough or entertaining enough and it is not to do with my personality and they don’t know what it is about me. I’m very worried that I will never figure out what is wrong with me and that I am just completely unlovable. I have been worrying recently that I will end up unmarried, alone and unloved forever. These thoughts have been taking their toll on me and I have been struggling with my will to live as a life of loneliness is not one I would want to live.



My friends tell me not to worry about it because I'm only 19, I’m young and I have time but that is easier said than done.



Note: Sorry if this is disturbing to anyone and too much for the forum

lucillegem
lucillegem
its okay hun, we all experience this at some point, though Im sorry to hear you are caught in it at the moment and struggling. Firstly, you dont have to apologize for how you feel, its okay to be hurt, feel hurt, dont ashamed of that vulnerable side at the same time, I think you refocus your attention on yourself... I dont mean that in a bad way... because darling, there isnt anything wrong with u and dont make the world make u believe that!! Im sure there is more to you, that you need to discover, and thats why im saying refocus on yourself, in a positive way and do some self care! it is true, you are so young (only 19!) and there is still so much for u to learn.... im sorry people havent been accepting you, but u know what they arent worth it, and u deserve much better!
I hope this helps! it may seem like an empty promise, but I do promise with time it will get better. dont meant to be so preachy, but just wanted to encourage u! Your not alone, keep on fighting for better days!
lovingmyselfirst
lovingmyselfirst
Sounds like you’re giving yourself up to others in order to get love and approval
The thing is we need to love and take care of ourselves first before others can treat us well and love us
Jujuju279
Jujuju279
lucillegem - Thank you so much for your words. I have decided to start going to therapy sessions at my university to try and help me stop worrying about this stuff. I think that a bit of self care and focusing on me would be a good idea.

lovingmyselfirst - I'd more so say I'm looking for validation. I think I do love myself. I look in the mirror and I see a successful, beautiful, intelligent young girl and I know that on paper I am enough. But maybe that's not what self love is?
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
What is most important is how you feel about yourself because when you love yourself, that love radiates out wood and attracts others too you.

If you are down on yourself and depressed alot then that tends to push others away.

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/04/15/love-yourself-unconditionally-deepak-chopra_n_5120399.html
Jujuju279
Jujuju279
bobinmaine - I definitely do relate to the "beginning" paragraph
newstart4me2
newstart4me2
Focus on YOU. Some people are not ready for what you have to offer and that’s ok, move on wen they receive you are what you have to offer. Before you find the right person for you, you will go throng tons of folks. Date and enjoy!
Community LeaderMid
Mid
Let me add to this: You are NOT responsible for what others say or do. You are responsible for what you say, do, and how you respond.
To put you and your well-being back on track and in a better balance, practice saying three positive things to you in the mirror every morning and again every night. Remind yourself of three things you do each and every day for you. Stand up, pull the shoulders back, and smile until you are comfortable. Remember this when you feel overwhelmed.
I hope this helps you. Find who you are! Do things that you enjoy!
Jujuju279
Jujuju279
newstart4me - Haha trust me, I've gone through more than my share of people

Mid - That's some good, practical advice, thank you. The three positive things I have chosen are that I am: hard-working, committed to my goals and successful
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