Loneliness Support Group
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I have 3 children 2 boys and a girl, there dad left moved on with his life no interest in his children so ive stepped up and filled the gap Its been tough ,my middle child a daughter has Autism and struggles she has no one but me but she has a heart of gold.
I have 3 children my eldest makes little to no effort ,shows no feelings or compassion ,both him and his wife treat me as a nothing ......
My youngest son well i tink im a cash cow ,
My daughter who has Autism gives everything and expects very little and recieves less
I have nurtured them ,gone up and beyhond and tried to support both financially and emotionally and i get Nothing back i constanty feel worthless
Im always trying to lose weight so my eldest son buys me chocolate last year when i said thankyou but im trying to lose weight they ate them.........
This year i quitley said can you please not buy me chocolate and in he walks with the same box he bought lastyear with no card........I thanked him but said you know im trying to lose weight you may as well take them back which he did ........well i had 1
My pont is tonight he cae round i told him i felt disapointed he said he will never buy me anything again ,i honestly am not ungrateful and i explained its about the lack of effort he doesnt put in ,, he then started to mimick waht my daughter had bought me so imtold him to leave im so upset i dont think im being selfish do you ??
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I invited Bill to have dinner with me last Sunday. He wasn't willing to drive 7 hours to mid Michigan and teased me with his beautiful ribs!!! So, of course I ate alone and had cedar salmon
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check out that smoke ring. It tasted really good. I smothered it with Maulls BBQ sauce which is Local to St. Louis and one of the best I ever had.....
Sadly, as parents we Want To Do, but what I've learned over the years is that kids, young adults, and adult children Don't Want Our Advice and when we give it they get mad.
Another thing I learned is that my son doesn't have respect for what "he has no investment in" meaning putting his own effort or money into. So when he moved back home almost a year ago I had him pay me rent, half house taxes, half heating oil and half water bill so he could 'Understand Money, Budgeting, And Cost Of Living better.
I also have learned over life, as a single parent, I Have To Take Care Of Me First because if I'm no good how can I Parent, Work etc. We "Teach" family/friends how to treat us, by what we accept and don't accept. This was a hard one to face/learn and I continue to learn "Boundaries".
I don't know how old your youngest son is, but I would think you could use some help, so instead of 'cash cow' have him work by doing things that will make your life easier. If he a young adult, have him get a part time job on weekends.
Your older son, is married so his first responsibility is to "his family"...we raise our kids to become independent adults. Instead of gifts, maybe instead think of something to "do" with his family...picnic, walk in the park whatever.
For many years I walked softly with a Huge Bat to get services for my son. At almost 29, he has Finally got his driver permit, is working 4 days a week and living an independent life with the help of his case manager and therapist. I do my best to stay out of his business.
By giving him respect, he respects me, by living by example, he sees what I do, I don't have to tell him. One rule I have No Food Upstairs and if I catch him, he gets a Fine Of $20.00. I'm no longer his "taxi" if he wants me to take him somewhere $20.00....no charge for grocery shopping and He Pushes Cart, brings groceries inside for me.
I'm Blessed in so many ways, but it's not easy. ((((Hugs))))