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Meh birthday...

Kg1979
Kg1979

So today was my birthday, yet it's made me feel down. I got a text from my mum and one of my sisters  (I have 2 sisters, 1 brother), my mum dropped off a present and card from her and my dad. My boyfriend only remembered it was my birthday after I'd told him about my daughter singing happy birthday to me and he posted on Facebook. Then he caused an argument.Yeah I got messages on Facebook, but today was meh. I always do special cards for those closest to me and try to give thoughtful presents. I'm not bothered about receiving gifts but I just feel like the only person who cared was my 9 year old daughter. And that is pretty amazing, she's an amazing little girl and that is all that matters I suppose. But I just don't feel special to anyone else.


I know this probably sounds stupid and I can't even describe how I'm feeling. I just feel like no one cares enough to make me feel special. And I feel like this almost every year. Probably sounds selfish. But I never get fussed over and everyone needs to be fussed over once in a while don't they?

peterthegreat
peterthegreat
But it is better then no friends no family and homeless.
Kg1979
Kg1979
Yes it is, hence why I said it sounds stupid. Just needed to write my feelings somewhere before it gets on top of other things that get me down. May sound miniscule to you, compared to what others go through, but we all have our "issues" no matter how small or great and it effects us in different ways
Gutted
Gutted
I don't think this is particularly a small thing. It appears that you want a close bonded relationship with a man who pays enough attention to independently remember your special days and cares enough not to ruin them with an unnecessary argument. I believe people start arguments in situation like this to alleviate themselves of having to do something special or to cover for the fact that they forgot. I'm sorry this happened to you. I feel that way when my daughter forget mother's day. It hurts.
calirn13
calirn13
Have you read the five love languages? I think you would be surprised what your love language is, or not. It’s probably gifts. I say this because mine is too. I fuss over everyone’s birthday ect... I find them the perfect gift... always. Wether it costs 1.00 or 1000.00. It’s the thought and love I put into it. My family finally gets it! They all took the test too!
annettearizona
annettearizona
Sometimes it is up to us to make ourselves feel special and spoiled rotten! So go out and do what you enjoy doing-even if it is no longer yourbirthday.Happy belated birthday
mechellebelle
mechellebelle
Happy belated birthday! It is hard when we fuss over others and no one seems to ever remember to return the favor. Birthdays are so hard for that reason. I have a friend who tells me that you have to tell ppl what you want from them. I never can seem to bring myself to do it, so my birthdays are always lame.
Kg1979
Kg1979
Yes I'm the same. I always think why should I! Shouldn't I be important enough to be thought of! Ah well. I'm over it now, sort of. Venting my thoughts, having a good cry with some chocolate, thinking of the good I do have in my life seemed to help. Always seems to and then I can move on if you know what I mean.

Thank you for your replies
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