I think appearances are over rated. You should try to be happy with who you are, and not care what others think of you. Society has put such an emphasis on looking perfect, that when we are not we feel like it's our fault. It does not matter if you are good looking or not ~ just be happy with your life.

You can say the same about women karan...

But I know many people who I would not consider the greatest looking and they have these things you speak of. For most....(not all)... it is so much more than looks. If you are down on yourself about how you look, it changes how you present yourself.

I can only speak for me but when I stopped measuring myself against others I began to see a transformation and to some extent it attracts people, friendships and such. You have to be a good friend and keep a good friend.

Plus, not all of us share the same idea of good looking or beautiful.

I believe that the concept that looks should determine one's friends and potential life is crap. I do not think looks should have that power. Sadly, I also recognize that they DO have that power - and I absolutely hate it.

Looks are the only things that matter in this world. The good Lord saw fit to make me ugly as a cur, so I don't have a host of problems that those good-looking types have. On the other hand, I suffer massive loneliness on an epic scale.

Looks matter to some extent but not as much as you might think. They will get you a first date, but not a relationship. To some extent good looks can be a burden, because the expectations are higher that you have something about your inner self that is admirable too. But in the end it's what's inside that has the lasting effect. It's the passion you have inside for something, it's what you believe in, it's what you value as demonstrated by what you do that makes you attractive to other people. You can't change the looks you were born with so work on developing your inner characteristics. Find something to care about.

Do you really want someone who only wants you for your looks? Looks fade eventually anyway.
Most people know of someone who is not that attractive yet has lots of friends, dates, etc.
The women I find attractive at my age is kindness and confidence and perhaps having a sense of humor. Sports fan a big plus too :)

hmm, maybe those of us with a case of the uglies need to check out daily strength for a blind support group...if such a thing could logically exist....maybe get us a blind date??? and dont fuss at me, diabetes is making me blind so i got the right to joke, right?

I'd think you are less likely to have genuine friends and love of your life if you are super good looking. Those people tend to be shallow people and attract the same. They might look like they have THE LIFE - but they are truly empty inside.

I agree, I don't think that looks make a person. I think the same that others say in this post that looks fade and eventually you better have something to back it up or its over. I can relate to this because when I went out with my last girlfriend I didn't go after looks but what was inside. She wasnt all that great looking but I didnt care because I wanted someone to love me for me and not my looks as well.
Soon after we started dating she was on the heavy side but started working out and started to loose a lot of weight. I however stayed the same person but went along with her on walks and started to loose some weight as well. She loosing about 60 lbs and I just a few. She started letting the looks thing control her life and she then made it all about her which I guess was fine with me but she ended up not being very happy at all. I fell in love with her for her mind and soul and not for her body... She on the other hand now wants someone to fit her life style which is ok by me but I am still the same person on the inside. So I have to agree with you on that aspect then too...
After still loosing all that weight she was still the same person to me but I was not to her. The funny part of it all is when she ends up finding someone just for looks she will end up most likely getting hurt because most people that are into the looks get tired of the other person because it is just superficial love and not of the heart... (From the inside)

Looks matter, and looks don't matter.
A person will often look at the way someone looks first. Lots of women and men won't go out w/ someone who they consider "ugly". As I have gotten older I"ve learned that there are fewer and fewer ugly women out there.
I married someone who is good looking. I never have complained about her looks, but ..... and this is a big but (no pun intended)her anger and meanness contributed to our divorce.
Looks DO NOT maintain a relationship. If you are with someone with a bad temper or with someone who loves to jump to conclusions, they can look like a movie star but will make your life miserable.
Give me a woman who is 25 pounds overweight any day of the week over a woman looking like Heather Graham with a nasty disposition. I'll be a lot happier with the woman who has a nice, calm personality.

I read that what really attracts women is confidence which effects the way you carry yourself. I was in a relationship with a unattractive guy. I wasn't sure at first if I was attracted to him but my feelings changed. He was still an asshole and we broke up. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I thought my husband was cute my friend didn't agree.

I think that the whole package counts, not just looks......I just want to meet a woman who can deal with my traumas and be there for me like I would be there for her....Sadly, I am having a hard time finding that..

Tom B. aka Ihman

I agree with everyone. It may appear that many so called "good looking" people have it all but when it comes down to it, it really does matter what is on the inside. I personally could never be with a guy others considered good looking if he was a real jerk or cocky. That to me would be a turn off for sure! I also agree with what sugar09 said that our society and culture has a really big negative influence on how we perceive ourselves on the outside.

I'm not good-looking, I'm not homely. And I manage to attract quality attractive people. I think really good breath and frequent showering go a very long way--seriously!

In that case if its really true that looks does'nt not matter then I cannot understand the fact that why I always end up hurt and alone.
Why did the girl of my dreams did'nt love me back even though I was ready to die for her.
Why my so called friends don't want to hang out with me even though I always try to help them.
Can't understand why?
Maybe I am destined to alone.

Anyways,thanks for the replies guys I really appreciate it.