Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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mandy4071
mandy4071

i have been in a relationship for 7 years now and i feel so lonely now more than ever. my boyfriend works all the time and rarely has time for me. he works and sleeps. plus there is no affection at all, including sex. i have been thinking about leaving but i geuss im scared to. scared ill be alone. i just get fed up with there being no affection. i dont know what to do?

Unbroken1
Unbroken1
In being in a relationship it is important to have some kind of affection or you might find yourself becoming distant from one another.

Only you know your relationship better than anyone so only you can make that decision if you want to stay or leave.

But more than any you shouldn't make a decision based on the sole reason that you might be lonely with him.

You need to do what's best for you
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
It sounds like you have some deeply ingrained fears you need to work through.

Be brave!

God Bless
Supercoolcat1984
Supercoolcat1984
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GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
Sounds like you said you are not sure about breaking up with him because you are afraid to be alone.

But, aren't you mostly alone right now anyway?

Please don't stay with someone, anyone, for fear of being alone. That's when bad things can happen. If you are considering leaving him, I think that is your gut feeling telling you this is not the right relationship for you. Do some thinking if this is the person you really want.

If you need help with co-dependency, there are therapists that can certainly help with that. Maybe therapy would be a good place to start?

Best wishes and good luck.
mtd
mtd
Have you ever been on your own? My personal opinion is that everyone should be on their own for at least a little while. It helps a person discover what they are made of. It gives one time to think for themselves without the distractions of someone else, whether it is family or a relationship. It gives you some real time to do what you want to do instead of always having to consult someone else. It also gives one a real chance to find that being alone isn’t so scary after all. It’s all about your own self confidence, learning how to take care of yourself and knowing you can do it. Relationships can end abruptly, no matter what kind of relationship it is. Then you are alone and not by choice. That’s why I think being on one’s own for a while is a good thing overall,
cbgrace1980
cbgrace1980
Thank you for sharing your story with us. That was not easy to do. I felt lonely in my marriage. I would try to explain this to my spouse, but he would not hear what I was saying. Have you thought about going to counseling? It will definitely help you learn how to make your way through this rough patch. Hugs to you.
Annita
Annita
Leave him some notes in his lunchbox letting him know how much you need him or want him.
Surprise him and make him feel special.
Be as loving and supportive as possible communicate, but make sure he hears and engages with you.
Love yourself....
Supercoolcat1984
Supercoolcat1984
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