Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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I am feeling desperately lonely

carolk1955
carolk1955

I am feeling desperately lonely. I have no family anymore...I have no siblings and my parents have passed away. My last family member was my husband who passed away in 2017. I long to be part of a group. In my hometown, where I am no longer living, I went to many 12-step support group meetings and always had phone numbers to call when I needed to talk to someone. Where i am currently living, they have AA but I'm not an alcoholic and so I don't qualify for those meetings. There are a few support groups. Unfortunately I no longer have a car and so getting there is a problem. I miss the fellowship and hugs that I received at those meetings. 


Carol

Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
I am sure you will make some friends here. Do you attend a church or do you have a senior center where you live? There are lots of ways to meet new people and make friends. Good luck
buffetcrasher
buffetcrasher
Do you have a library close to you you may be able to participate in activities or groups? A lot of them that do these types of groups and things are either free or low-cost options.
maria718
maria718
Totally understand. I'm sitting here so all alone too. Very hard to make new friends out there, although I tried and tried and tried. The thing that saved me was that I finally accepted my lonelyness . I don't dwell on it as much now and just keep myself busy, took a class, volunteer reading to kids, joined a gym. All of these things are near me, though. Do you have anything near you? Also, there are other types of groups out there, for example, there's OA, if you have a weight problem, that's Overeaters anonymous, as an example. Also look up meet up groups, see if your local hospital has some sort of groups. Even though you don't have a car, there has to be something near you, and you do need to get out and get support. Yes even though I do keep myself busy and put myself out there, every night when I come home it's lonely, but at least it doesn't bother me all day long. Good luck to you, anytime you want to chat I'm here.
Anij34
Anij34
I am honestly not sure if I have any suggestions that haven't been covered here. The main thing is to not let excuses keep you from meaningfully plugging into society. You have been given so many great suggestions. I will follow up and suggestion counseling/therapy and find a great church if you feel called in that direction. Many blessings to you!
Scott46
Scott46
And no kids I take it(?) Church and senior center mentioned above are good ideas. But you said you have a transportation issue. Often times church members will give rides to elderly members. But you'd have to go to a service and talk with the pastor or deacons. Even then church is only once or twice a week and that is not much if you are lonely. If your local family have all passed away, Would it be possible to move back to your hometown? What about living in some sort of senior housing? Then you would have some neighbors and likely common areas to socialize. Maybe you could find a living situation where several older ladies are living in a big house and sharing the rent. You mentioned AA. How about you have a drink when you're lonely? Then go to the AA meetings and talk about how you are on the verge of alcoholism because you drink to combat the loneliness?
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