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Full house but terribly lonely

sofiagal
sofiagal
Kids are all home...even the adult ones but I feel terribly lonely. Everyone is on a different schedule and there is never time to be together. I don't expect my 20 somethings to want to spend time with me...or even my teen but my husband is on his own schedule as well. Never thinks of asking me to go anywhere or even eating a meal with me...I have to do everything alone. I try to keep myself very busy so not to be upset about it but it doesn't help. He is out of work and home all day so there is no excuse....I am so down over this and when I bring it up he becomes very defensive. He is even booking trips without me...which i wouldnt mind if he spent time with me. What to do????
SweetPetite
SweetPetite
You really need to sit down and talk with your husband, if you haven't already. Obviously there is something very wrong there if he is booking trips without you. :-( Why would you stand for that?
texicallie
texicallie
Maybe by keeping yourself "very busy", the message you are sending out to others is "Don't bother me; I'm too busy doing all this important stuff to want to sit and talk with you, eat with you, do something with you..."

Maybe your "busyness" is keeping people at a distance.
annettearizona
annettearizona
we sometimes need to find things for us to do as an individual that we enjoy doing..even surrounded by others we need to enjoy life to the fulliest..but you do need to sit down and talk to your husband in private or atleast write him a note about what he is doing
enigmaticloner
enigmaticloner
That does sound quite odd that he is making trips without you. Have you tried sitting down and talking to him and also your children as well? I'm in my 20s as well and I still spend time with my mother, I don't have any friends anymore really, they've mostly all deserted me pretty much, while my parents haven't. So that was a lesson I've learned. However I'm guessing your kids are in a different situation though. Still try talking to them though. Sometimes that's all a parent really needs to do.
honeypeas
honeypeas
Try asking "Them" to do something with you. Shopping, movies, lunch. See what happens. And you definitely need to talk to your husband about the trips....You didn't mention where or how often or for how long he goes, but I would find out more about them. Maybe suggest you join him on one. Please keep us posted on what you decide.
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