Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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Luna113
Luna113
So, as I'm sure people who've read my posts before know, I really don't have friends these days. Long story, got betrayed, built walls, forgot to put in a door...blah blah. Anyway, I've leaned hard on a small portion of what family I've got left. However, they've now got their own huge problems to deal with and I'm getting pushed more off to one side. I can understand, logically. I've never faulted them or cried for attention.

But....it's so lonely. People say "oh just make friends. When's the last time you dated?" I say, how do I bring anyone into this mess? I'm not a ray of sunshine. I'm depressed, anxious, and if I showed it honestly, needy. Nobody wants that. At the best of times I'm still socially awkward. I'm hyper aware of my every interaction and it's crippling sometimes. I'm starting to feel that my future is rather bleak, to put it lightly.
deleted_user
deleted_user
We're here for you and will not push you aside. It is good to let out your thoughts, vent or whatever. I know for myself, I have those days and just knowing I have great friends here, means the world. Glad to say I'm proud we are friends! Hugs!
Luna113
Luna113
Thanks, Zcanann :)
billwfriend
billwfriend
We are here! Thing to do is attempt self sufficeincy to get away from needy. I deal w being needy too. Emotional needy is worse than financial needy.
Luna113
Luna113
Oh I am self sufficient. I mean, I fully support myself and I don't actually need anybody's help to get by day to day. But I worry about being emotionally needy because there are so few people in my life and anybody new is going to have a lot of my attention available. Just another reason I'm hesitant to reach out to new people.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I feel sort of similar to you, despite being in a relationship, I have few friends and few family members to talk to. Although I haven't had much luck making new friends I am trying to make friends on my own terms. I am not one of those people who can just strike up a conversation so I know I would not be successful at social events. However I know that reading is a huge interest of mine so I am trying to join book clubs where I know I would be in a comfortable atmosphere and where I can express myself and I am hoping through discussions I can make new friends. So I hope you get my point because I think I might have rambled a bit. Just think about meeting people in an environment where you feel comfortable and that will allow people to see the real you and want to get to know you better.
PinterestFan
PinterestFan
You may be down, but your future can be great. Focusing on the good,
and staying in the present is helpful. Have you read anything by Dr.
Daniel Amen or seen his PBS special? I saw a few minutes last night -really interesting.

I hope good things are headed your way.
gramybear
gramybear
Your life is not bleak, it's just off kilter right now. We need to help you get those walls down. They are dangerous, especially when you fall.
Giving someone all of your love is never an assurance that they'll love you back.
Don't expect love in return;
Just wait for it to grow in your heart.
But if it doesn't, be content it grew in yours.
That goes for relationships, friendships, family, etc....
Hugs GB
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