Hello and welcome! It is good that you are going to the gym and counseling...what about hobbies? HObbies can keep you busy and introduce you to others with the same interests..
Try to delibrately set up things to do for yourself in the evenings and on the weekends-keeping busy is a big distraction..but knowing that your ex has moved on should tell you that he was definitely not Mr right!
And in time you will never know when-till it happens,you will find Mr Right! In the meantime you have to live for you! Make yourself a life worth living-a brand new start!

Thank you... I want to do things and enjoy my life again. I just get overwhelmed with anxiety sometimes, that I choose to stay home. And staying home means being lonley, and depressed. I can't break the cycle

Welcome Brittany. Its tough to imagine what each person feels like when we go through this. Each of us deal with loss and loneliness differently but we can all day we have felt exactly the same and know time heals all wounds.

Knowing he has moved on can consume you from moving on yourself. We dont know what caused the divorce but I live by something I tell a lot of people....you cant stress over what you cant control. I know, easier said then done. Having too much time on your hands can cause you to think of thoughts that are either toxic or not real.

Coming on here is your first step to knowing you are lonely. I just started posting and have had some great support.

You said you want to enjoy life again. Dont let him be the reason you dont. Plan a weekend getaway with friends or for yourself. Go back to your hobbies, have a friend over for dinner. Whatever it is find that person inside you that knows how to have fun. You dont need to try and keep busy all the time because you do need to grieve but each day it will get better.

After 15 years, he woke up stated things have changed, and we needed consuling. He then left, and we have been trying to work on things for 3 years... I know... I hung on to long. Now, just when I think we might be working on things, he tells me he met someone. ALl of my hobbies and interests were with him, and involved him in someway. I don't know how to begin to move on without him, even though I have no choice.

hugs and hope to you in some manner shape and form....hugs

Thank You... This is just so hard to handle sometimes.

Brittany, How about looking into some things you might like as in a hobby to do at night and on weekends. There is so much to choose from. Visit friends, go to a movie with a friend, go shopping and buy yourself something new. Read a good book, make a new recipe and invite someone over. Yes, you will grieve also but someday also you will find another love. XX

I try an ddo things with the kids, and I have friends over. I guess when I am home alone, I miss him being there. I miss cuddling and watching a movie. I miss the companionship. He is doing very well with all this, because he has someone to do those things with. I am very alone

Stuffed animals make for good cuddling too! And perhaps new hobbies might be a way to start-something that you and your ex didn't do together?

Yes, I agree. I need to find something to fill my nights and weekends. They are the worse for me. I seem to get through the day, even though I sit and cry all day in my office, I keep that hidden.

meetup.com join into a group that takes in kool movies or dinner out or just goes swimming or whatever....hugs bill

I heva heard about that... I think Maby I will.Sounds like a good move for me

Hi Brittany, I'm glad you found something among the group of ideas and support that seemed right for you. I would like to add, if you can, and can handle the expense and care to also get a dog. They are good at cheering you up, being there and loving you through thick and thin. In no way do I mean this as a substitute for a man. But perhaps the kind of love a man can work his way up to. ;) I think "balance" is a good thing to work on. yes, you'll get out and meet new people, and likely find a new guy in no time, but it's a good time to work on yourself and grow yourself, and give yourself love and validation that is not dependent on a man. Then pick your man, and like millionare matchmaker Patti says.."make em work for it".

I so can relate. When they move on so quickly, it makes you feel horrible. But, don't even kid yourself, it's just a rebound. She'll be history in a couple of months. Keep strong, and move on. You had good reason to leave, or you would be with him.

I'd say try to join a support group that you can go in person and talk to and chat with other people and be around them. Support is pretty amazing.

Thank You... I do have a dog, who I LOVE to death. I have been trying to find local support groups in the area for me, and I will be joing next week. I have just been trying to focus on myself, therapy and the gym... Oh and this site really seems to help.....