Hello all ,just a quick albeit difficult question.....For all you divorcees,and almost divorce people,when did you know,and how did you tell your spouse you wanted a divorce??

My problem is I have been married for almost 18 yrs this coming july,with no children,1 dog and a house...........My husband has recently told me that we dont have to make a special occasion out of every anniversary,I was shocked to hear this........Most husbands would want to celebrate the day you married your partner for life,he does not...........So as not to toot my own horn,I pretty much do everything work 40-50 hrs a week,do all housework,make him breakfast every morning(when i could sleep another hr.)pay all the bills and run all the errands....His 1 job other than reg working is the yard,and i hear him moan 2 days before and 3 days after he does it,when it only takes him maybe an hour on a saturday every 2 weeks,so i guess my 3rd question is Am i being selfish??Years ago in the beginning we did everything together,now it seems he doesn't want to do anything with me ,and for that matter doesn't want me to do anything with my friends either,as he says he doesn't like them,and could be a bad influence on me, in short I am physically,emotionally and mentally tired.....Any advice is helpful as i really dont know which way to turn anymore......I apologize for the long post.