what you've described as selfish, cheaters, and $$ hungry... that describes a lot men, regardless of color. i've seen enough that aren't black or latino and act that way.

i'm sure you will find a good man out there, you just have to look for the signs. really watch their behavior and not just take attn to their looks. get to know him better before dating him. maybe become friends first. if they aren't patient enough to wait and get to know you better before trying to get in your pants, then he's a looser. also, find out his moral stance on things. find out what his parents have taught him, etc. you get the picture.

good luck with all that!

My husband is white & native american & a total asshole at times!! I was with a black guy about 7 years ago, he was a great guy, but he was not really what I was looking for in a guy. There are assholes, mistreaters & cheaters equally in all races. There is someone out there for us all.

reply #4, im AA and my mother feeds us (me, my sis, and my bro) about how white women are sooo easy and how blk men like to be with them and not blk women etc. i knew white girls who werent pushovers and others were. if the blk guy is sayin how blk men like to use white women, then he is only with u on superficial reasons not real reasons like he wants to be with u, marry u, or be friends with u which ever.

that blk guy himself is using stereotypes to get a date! ive heard enough ir stories about that and i have picked up on those myself when meeting guys from different races. if he believes the hyper that AA's has taught their kids on white women bein so damn easy, then they really need to experience life. u got hoes and bitches in all races, dumb and educated too.

its more like u r attracting the wrong men, ive been there done that b4. when i was single, i was meeting the wrong white guys way 2 many of them. most of the ones i met i didnt trust, i felt they were dangerous cuz of the situations i was in. a lot of them were boring and selfish as hell, expected me to do shit 4 them 24/7, while they didnt know what a true friend means. it was like meeting a bunch of 13 yr old kids!

anyway, heres what u should do. if u meet a guy (any race) who bases white girls on stereotypes, id keep moving on cuz that wont be a successful relationship and those kinds of ppl who base stereotypes on relationships arent really interested in IR dating/marriage like they seem to portray out there. I'd call these ppl losers, cant understand a true relationship, and miserable ppl. even if u r meeting these guys to date or befriend, if u see bad intentions, id walk away so fast.

No please dont think that way..
My ex boyfriend was like that.. he was black.. he really screwed my head up, but you know what? other of my friends have been in relationships with white/mexican/puerto rican/etc.. and its been in that race to.. now im taken and in love with a wonderful strong black man, he is an amazzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzing man not to mention a terriffic father.. we have no jealousy, dont argue, dont fight, we have fun and yes there are disagreements but nothing horrible. it really just depends on the man not the race.

I do not believe it is the race in general I think it is boys who were not raised by a loving and caring family or became rebelious later in life because they felt they "had something to prove." I am with a WONDERFUL black man and I am white. We have been celibate for 4 months now and we dont care, we are not running out with other people to satisfy our desires, we are committed to one another and truly love one another. And that is what it all comes down to is the committment level and the compatibility. It has nothing to do with race :)