Have you tried any kind of counseling? For yourself, or marriage counseling? I think it would help you to talk to a professional.

I get that you like the attention from the younger guy at work, but I would advise not to do anything hasty. You don't want to lose your job. You don't really know this guy... he could get weird on you, stalk you, or claim you sexually harassed him at work... he could have an STD.... I mean, you need to think clearly and carefully before doing anything drastic. You have a child to think about. Once you cross that line, you can never take it back ever. I would just encourage you to wait and think about the whole situation in your life.

Encourage your husband to get a full physical. There could be a medical reason why he has zero sex drive at his age. Or, maybe he drinks, smokes pot, is depressed, etc. Would be helpful for you to know the reason.

Try to fix your marriage first. Don't add any more problems by looking outside your marriage.... Unless... you are seriously going to divorce him and work out child custody, living arrangements, etc. If you want to divorce, then that's certainly your choice. I would just try some of these other things first.

I wish you the best.

Honestly, I would be very leery of a younger guy actively pursuing the "new girl", knowing that she is married with children.

Are there no single women his age to pursue?

I would wonder if he is the office Lothario who is more interested in adding another notch to the bedpost than interest in me.

Sit down with Hubby.. say HEY .. guys are perusing me, i am flattered & if you don’t want me to step out or get a divorce we need to work on this!
Get him a physical and you both in therapy!
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I completely understand where you coming from . I have been in your shoes and I didn't cheat but you do have to be honest with your husband about what's going on with your relationship. Sometimes when we lack entamency we tend to search else where rather than try to fix things. I am sure its flattering to have someone younger and good looking hit on you. Just take as a compliment but try to talk things through first

I would talk to a counselor... I have seen people really work through some things with a good counselor, just need to find the right counselor.

Wondering how you are doing after a couple of weeks?

things are getting better, especially after all the crazy stay-at-home stuff. We are getting closer (husband and i) and I haven't given much thought to work guy because I don't see him or really talk to him

Please don't cheat. I would try to speak with your husband and discuss the problem.It is so much better than cheating on someone who is being loyal to you. I wonder if there is a problem with him not feeling adequate in that area or something traumatic may have happened to him when he was younger and it might be linked to his aversion to sex. Please don't cheat before putting it on the table.

Is he and has he been faithful to you? Where is he and what is he doing while you are fantasizing about another man?

I don’t think cheating is the answer. Try everything u can to work on your marriage. My husband didn’t give us the chance to work on our marriage. We had misunderstanding in the bedroom, he claimed I wasn’t meeting his needs. I was pregnant and nauseous most of the time. He ended up starting to use and sleeping with the person he was getting his drugs from. Now he’s in recovery and doesn’t know if he still wants to be married. I have never fell out of love with him and continue to try and work on our marriage but he says because I had access to all their conversations that I know too much and I’m too hurt and our marriage can’t come back from that. It’s crazy that he’s making that decision for me. I’m willing to stand by him and hope things will change but I have no expectations anymore cause they just hurt me. I hope you guys are able to work through this and can be stronger.