Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
My new GF said to me last night - your STBX is probably very upset that she was replaced so easily. That you moved on so quickly from her - I told her "we are all replaceable" No one on this planet is perfect and we all only want someone we can be happy with and feel safe around.
No one can be happy with someone who cheats on them or lies to them or doesn't feel secure and safe around them.
That's actually pretty easy to replace.
My new GF does her own activies, makes her own money, makes her own decisions, brings qualities to the plate that I could only dream of. I wish I would have meet her before my STBX that I would be in my bubble bobbing around - ignorant to what I had to go through.
I was lucky to have found my GF in this stupid storm. Now, she is not easy to replace - A cheater - they are very easy to replace.
No one can be happy with someone who cheats on them or lies to them or doesn't feel secure and safe around them.
That's actually pretty easy to replace.
My new GF does her own activies, makes her own money, makes her own decisions, brings qualities to the plate that I could only dream of. I wish I would have meet her before my STBX that I would be in my bubble bobbing around - ignorant to what I had to go through.
I was lucky to have found my GF in this stupid storm. Now, she is not easy to replace - A cheater - they are very easy to replace.
The ones who are cheated on normally "upgrade" or once again being solo is even better.
CS will augment.
BS will replace.
Corporations do this all the time. Adding part-time, temporary labor during peak seasons. Its pathetic that Marriage has come to this.
Her, on the other hand, thinks she's upgraded, as he's young, "hot," very athletic, is more outgoing, comes from rich parents, and has high future potential in terms of career, due to his father's well known position and his college degree. Oh, and she thinks they are in love.
I think the cheated on usually 'upgrade' because they know they don't want the same to happen again, and look for "quality" in their potential future partner/spouse, whereas the cheater's AP relationship is based on lust, and the not so "quality" aspects...
A betrayed person "can" only upgrade.....anybody is an upgrade from their cheater....
but sadly, llmt, ....you proved me wrong! I suppose one can stay on the same dang level, even after a cheater. Like you said, it's possible to find another cheater, in this dang world....
Like the other post about normal vs. abnormal relationships. It's starting to be the case, that there are so many cheaters out there, it is possible to find 2 or more in a row! Damn, that is so unfair!!!!!
Now if only we could figure that out in advance...crap....anyone got anything to share on that??? How to avoid another fricken cheater after a cheater????? I suppose if we did, we'd be rich!!!
Little did I know that all of the men in her family had cheated multiple times on their spouses (grandmothers her father on her mother) and actually even had children with their misteriess but they are all catholic so no idea if that had anything to do with them all still staying together.
Does that explain it all for why she did what she did - no but I think its part of the equation that adds up to "crazytown". She saw the devasting affects and control it had and she had to relive history - I mean relive stupid.
BuildtoLast brings all the knowledge about the chemical high situation - resentment is a big factor, entiltlement, freakin smart phones/texting/communication/availability that was never around before - it all adds up to stupid.
I just would never want my two sons (I only have 2 and they are both with her while we were married) to say dad - why did you do this to mommy - why would you break up the family?
I could never do that to my kids - but I never factored in that she would drop that nuclear option.
I am also afraid of being replaced. SInce I agree with the point that up until now he's been supplementing. I am terrified of the thought of him actually REPLACING ME and remarrying...playing house with some other bimbo.
Can I offer my interpretation? ... I am a fairly new girlfriend for you and want to know how much you care for me. I am trying to learn if you have residual feelings for your ex wife.
Basically, she is ASKING if YOU have moved on from ex w.