Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I have been married for 27 years. Six years ago my husband told me he was in love with a woman he worked with and was going to leave me for her. He said their relationship had not gone as far as sex yet. I did believe him because he was going to leave me. Why lie? What was the point? He did not leave right then, we just lived in the same house like strangers for some time. Well he never did leave because he had nowhere to go. He couldn't go to her house because she had kids. And he couldn't afford to get a place of his own. So things just went on like that until one day he told me they were not going to see each other any more. He wanted to stay married to me. I never asked any questions be cause I was glad he was staying with me. So life went on. I found out this July that they did have a sexual relationship. He said he didn't tell me that then because he didn't want to hurt me more. Well now I have to go through this terrible thing all over again! I am devestated. I have been to therapy. He said he would go at first then changed his mind. I read books and look on the computer for advice. I have even written a couple of poems to help me cope. He is a good person, but this is still such a shock to me that it's hard to remember that at times. And I feel like I am the only one stuck doing all the work because of his bad choice. Any advice would be appreciated.
To get to the point of telling you he was leaving..........that was BIG. He was out there. I don't beleive his story. I'd say it's more likely she dumped him when she realised he was hedging his bets. She may have given him an ultimatum - and lost. I just don't beleive him.
You say I may be a blast and that we all know where we stand with me. Thanks for that.
See, I was raised with an old statement from my Grandma. It was this, 'It's alright to be a bitch. Just don't be an asshole.'
There IS a difference. A bitch deals with the issues that come to her as they come. 'If you bring it my way, do not bring it lightly. Be careful what you bring to me, because I will deal with it.' An asshole goes around, out of their way, to make trouble for others, to hurt others, to destroy others.
I am not an asshole, just a total bitch. I have been called that in my life, to my face. For that, I always say 'thanks!' Because I know I am a bitch. Just not an asshole. I won't ever tread in YOUR life and destroy anyone...and you better stay outta mine.
...and as my EX always said, 'L is one of the nicest people around, just don't piss her off. She won't get over it.'
Damn straight.
This whole site is for us bitches. It's for us - because someone decided to be an asshole in our lives - and we are male/female bitches, dealing with it. On our own terms.
...and that is fine.
L~