Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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I don’t know why I care so much.

notevenhismistress
notevenhismistress

I feel so ridiculous posting about this but I need someone to be honest with me & tell me what to do lol. I was messing around with a married man. I know, it's not right but I got attached and he cut me off. We work together. Seeing him was hard. It got harder when I saw him with another coworker of ours. He claims they're just friends. He swears they're relationship was. Nothing sexual. It's been MONTHS and they're still talking. A while ago I found a letter she had written him. It was a love letter. Part of me was upset because how come she gets to tell him she loves him and he's okay with it but I mention possibly having feelings and he stops talking to me. But the other part of me was jealous of her. I'm always asking myself "why does he want her so much? Does he love her? What does she have that I don't?" She's prettier and she's taller and she has bigger boobs than I do but man. I know he's not mine. You can't lose what wasn't yours to begin with but what hell? I hate her. I hate him. I hate myself for feeling this way because he's married! I just know they're not "just friends" you don't sneak around with a "friend" at work. They think they're being discreet but the whole fucking building knows. I hate it. He made me feel so shitty for what we did. He said he regretted it. He said it was gonna haunt him forever but he can still fuck around with her? That's not gonna haunt him? Why? What's different? Ugh. I'm sorry, I know I sound stupid. & I shouldn't worry about who he's doing but I can't help it. 

GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
Your profile says you are 26 years old. Do you want to ever have a man all for yourself?

I am not sure why you even care about him sleeping with this co-worker. What about his wife? He has been with her way before the co-worker stuff.

Maybe think about what you really want for your life. He is a cheater and a liar and he will continue to sleep with other women... he is already doing 3 of you... I am certain there will be more women. You sound like a smart woman. Do you want a man of your own? Then end it with this guy. He will never change. Only you can change.
RAH1203
RAH1203
First of all, allow yourself some grace. You fell I. Love with someone you shouldn’t have. However, it takes two people to have an affair. Be accountable for yourself and work on that. Don’t focus on him.
calirn13
calirn13
Imagine being his wife… He is a cheating POS. You do not want to be attached to that. Spouses always find out, if not today, maybe tomorrow.
Goddelivers
Goddelivers
As someone who has been on the receiving end of this. This guy is playing with fire. And you are so much better off not being subject to a break up of a marriage and family and having any part of it. Because when his wife finds out...and she will. It may all seem like fun and games right now, but he will lose everything.
Barr62
Barr62
Don't be that " other woman " , my wife woke up thinking the grass was greener on the other side , but it turned out to be fake turf , .. i don't know how far their " friendship " went as co-workers < school bus drivers > they both claim it was just talking ect: nothing physical, but? months after she realized he was a player i noticed she was kinda heart broken, then to top it off... months later her GYN informed her she has a STD , and told her when you go home tell your husband , if not i will ...she did however? you can get STDS without being sexual specially females ... so who know over wall just walk away and fix your own marriage if you are :)
calirn13
calirn13
Barr62 who told you that women can get STD’s without having sex???? Please don’t be that guy. There are a few instances like sharing sex toys this mostly happens with same sex couples. So NO you cannot get STD’s without sexual contact!
notevenhismistress
notevenhismistress
Thank you to everyone who’s replied. I appreciate your honesty. I’m working on letting go of all that. Thank you
NABatz
NABatz
You are making yourself crazy over a man you have no commitment with. Imagine what you would be going through right now if you did have a commitment with him. Count your blessings and move on this is not what you want
Barr62
Barr62
Calirn13 live and learn :) https://www.stdcheck.com/blog/how-to-get-an-std-without-having-sex/
read
Barr62
Barr62
Considering the fact that the ‘S’ in STD stands for sexually, it must be impossible to get STDs without doing the horizontal mambo, right? WRONG. STDs can spread without even having sex. Things like kissing a loved one or family member, conducting oral, sharing contaminated food, borrowing unclean towels, and more can transmit STDs like chlamydia, herpes, and hepatitis.
calirn13
calirn13
Hepatitis .. I don’t consider that an STD, you can spread it from bodily fluids. There are so many ways to get this.
According to the CDC, planned parenthood & all of the doctors at my work.. Chlamydia isn't spread through casual contact, so you CAN'T get chlamydia from sharing food or drinks, kissing, hugging, holding hands, coughing, sneezing, or sitting on the toilet.
HSV-1 & HSV-2 can be spread by oral sex.

If she got an STD .. her mouth was somewhere it wasn’t supposed to be.
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