Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Hello all, I am new to this site, but it has been helpful already. Well, to make a long story shorter, I have been married to my wife for 6 years now and we were to together for about 9 years. She meant the world to me, was my everything, my best friend. Then I found out a couple of days before Christmas last year, that she had an affair.
Needless to say I was completely devastated and I told her to leave. She packed up her things and moved back with family 1500 miles away. We tried to reconcile for the first month after she left, but got nowhere. I found out she had already starting dating someone else. I have since learned that there may have been an OM #2 here when we were together.
There really is no other choice now than divorce and that's what I am preparing for. I feel so used and betrayed. I don't understand why this had to happen? We seemed to have an excellent relationship. We went on so many fun and exciting trips and had the greatest of times.
Now I had to move back to my parents place because I could no longer afford our condo. I feel like such a loser that I am back here again at age 32. Then in mid-June I lost my job and I'm living on unemployment until the end of the summer, when it runs out and looking for work.
I am very depressed now most of the time, when I used to be very happy before. It has also increased my anxiety much more. I am very sad and lonely. Some days are better than others and I hope they continue to get better.
If anyone has any advice, comments, or questions feel free to ask me or post. You can add me as a friend if you would like as well. Sorry I made the post so long, thanks for all of your help!
HEARTBROKEN77
Needless to say I was completely devastated and I told her to leave. She packed up her things and moved back with family 1500 miles away. We tried to reconcile for the first month after she left, but got nowhere. I found out she had already starting dating someone else. I have since learned that there may have been an OM #2 here when we were together.
There really is no other choice now than divorce and that's what I am preparing for. I feel so used and betrayed. I don't understand why this had to happen? We seemed to have an excellent relationship. We went on so many fun and exciting trips and had the greatest of times.
Now I had to move back to my parents place because I could no longer afford our condo. I feel like such a loser that I am back here again at age 32. Then in mid-June I lost my job and I'm living on unemployment until the end of the summer, when it runs out and looking for work.
I am very depressed now most of the time, when I used to be very happy before. It has also increased my anxiety much more. I am very sad and lonely. Some days are better than others and I hope they continue to get better.
If anyone has any advice, comments, or questions feel free to ask me or post. You can add me as a friend if you would like as well. Sorry I made the post so long, thanks for all of your help!
HEARTBROKEN77
I guess I should update everyone a bit. I found out about her infidelity in December 2009 and we separated at the end of that year. The divorce was finalized in November 2010. We still text each other about every 2 weeks or so and actually talk on the phone maybe once every two months. She says she is quite miserable without me too, but I can't believe anything she says.
Maybe it's still too early, but I struggle every single day with all this and everything that has happened. I have anxiety and depression. I am constantly worrying and I don't know how to calm myself and be more at peace? I wasn't always like this. Before this all happened, I was really quite happy, energetic, and motivated. Now I am just drowning in sorrow. Losing my job has added to my anxiety greatly. :(
Please stick with me guys and help me. I really need all the help I can get. Thanks for listening. I appreciate all your help. :)
This hurt me a lot (which I let her know and she didn't seem too worried about it)and it now, looking back, it makes me feel like I am a failure when it comes to judging character.
Ugh, i don't know? It just hurts. :(
You have been dealt a hard blow. And though you feel like everything has been taken from you you will find you are gaining strength slowly as days pass. Before mine fell apart I was not on anti depressants but with continual spiraling downward I was prescribed medication that has helped. Along with a councelor, I hope you chose to find one for you, and a support system here you will find there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Take Care and God Bless
I'm beginning to finally realize that she has more issues than I thought or could see. Love is blind and I guess I chose to look past a lot of things because I loved her so much. If nothing else, I tried my best and gave it all I had. It's just a hard lesson to learn. I wish it didn't have to happen.
With the help of time, I'll be ok though. :)
Don't feel bad cause you had to move back home. My hubby and I had to get on state assistance - Medicaid and Food Stamps for the first time in our life. Our home will be foreclosed soon and looks like we may just be living in a small travel camper - but hey we will have a roof over our head!
Keep your chin up!