Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I want to start by saying that I hope I don't offend anyone with my question. Was there any oral sex? I have asked my H several times and his answer is always no. Should make me feel better right? Why does this one issue nag at me?
My H had told the OW that he loved her. { he thought he did} They had sex 5or 6 times. So I was feeling like well she got everything from him that I got! There was nothing left that I could tell myself "well, at least they didn't do THAT" So I did come right out and ask him. As I said, his answer was always no.
Then when I was reading the book First Aid For The Betrayed the author was refering to oral sex when he said "you can count on it" So I guess my guestion is for those that asked for details of the A. Was there always oral sex involved? I would really like to believe my H but I'm not sure why this particular issue stays on my mind.
My H had told the OW that he loved her. { he thought he did} They had sex 5or 6 times. So I was feeling like well she got everything from him that I got! There was nothing left that I could tell myself "well, at least they didn't do THAT" So I did come right out and ask him. As I said, his answer was always no.
Then when I was reading the book First Aid For The Betrayed the author was refering to oral sex when he said "you can count on it" So I guess my guestion is for those that asked for details of the A. Was there always oral sex involved? I would really like to believe my H but I'm not sure why this particular issue stays on my mind.
no - i wasnt saying they weren't getting it at home - i was more referring to the common excuses for infidelity - that "something was missing" frim their marriage - or that they were fulfilling a need (ie praise, attn etc) ... i agree that their void will never be filled - not by cheating anyway - because it is an internal emotional/psyc prob that they have... one that will only be healed with some seriously genuine introspection and sage counsel.
Would it make a difference if he HADN'T done it with her or if he'd only slept with her 3 or 4 times instead of 5 or 6? BTW, IMO, that is probably a lie. 5-6 more likely means 10-12. But,again, that doesn't matter.