Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Hello:
About 6 months ago I found out my husband of 36 years cheated on me with a married" woman". I haven't been the same since. I cry everyday. I don't understand how he can betray me and lie like this.It has been over for about a year and here are the things he says to me:
Says he loves me and always has ,wants to spend the rest of his life with me.( When I talk about divorce or separation he won't hear of it).
I told him i wish things could get back to how we were and he said they will because I am the most important person in his life and nothing is ever going to change that.
Says doesn't give a shit about her and is not going to ruin a 36 year marriage because of her.
Says it's in the past and didn't see it as a big deal and never in his wildest dreams did he think i would be hurt so badly .
Says he wishes it never would have happened but it's done and what do I want him to do now?
I told him things are different between us now and he says they are not, it's all in my head.
I don't understand how you can love someone and cheat on them.
I haven't told anyone not even our daughter so thank you for listening to me.
I NEED HELP!
Maryanne
I'm reading up on sociopath. I'm on a few sites. I'll let you know my conclusion.Not that I'm a psychiatrist but just if these traits fit him.
I've been reading up on sociopath. Went to a few sites. I think some are exagerated. This is not cut and dried. Some apply to him but many do not.
Examples from this site:
https://www.mcafee.cc/Bin/sb.html
1.He is manipulative and domineering but not hostile and humiliating.
2. Grandiose sense of self
3 . He is not a pathological liar but is very convincing
4.He does have some deep seated rage but I doubt he sees people as targets.
Next 3 does not apply.maybe outburts and outraged by insignificant things.
5.i think he has empathy
6. Poor behavior control.Ok I think yes
Next 2 not true except for blaming others.
7 promiscuous yes
Next 2 no. He is a very hard worker
The "other related qualities "he is number 3 . authoritarian.
Some are ridiculous such as # 8 and 9.
They don't mention great talker who brings you to their way of thinking.
Many of these things can apply to people who are not sociopaths
For example, my H is a covert narcissist. He is the “nice guy” who is always friendly, helping people, appears so caring and engaged with others. What I did not realize until he blew up my life is that he does all of this for approval, attention and ego kibbles. He also did not tick every box on the various covert narcissist inventories, but enough of them to identify a trend in that direction.