I would go in and check out the cheaters annonymous , I thought it would be a brag session and it wasn't , but yesterday I went in there and there was a post about the betrayed spouses being barred from the room ,that the room was set up so that thecheaters would feel comfortable talking about why they cheated and tried to figure out why they cheated and not be bombarded with questions and accusations, some of the posts were about "Why won't my spouse forgive me" or "Im devastated my spouse doesent want to work it out, 'THye don't understand why, well that's good because neither do we, I posted someting like that "cheaters giving each other advice, none of them truly seemed that sorry , only sorry that they got caught some of the affiars had been going on for years, children were produced, and they don't understand why they are not forgiven, im like forgiveness is not handed out like card, it comes in steps, 'Oh ok yo made a mistake , you have been living a double life for almost 2 years ,screwing around on me, 'but that's ok I forgive you 'Im not busting thier chops by any means I don't know them , but being on this side of the fence it was kind of comical to see them wonder why ????