All right, Richie D, I'm willing to live in peace, but the "family ties" are utterly and completely fake as soon as incest occurs. An incestuous family is not a family, and there's nothing to kill an attachment like multiple class A felonies, slavery and torture. And as soon as we speak up we find out that our "family members" are in fact our mortal enemies. If we pursue the matter we will find out how dangerous these people are - which is consistent with enslaving us, traumatizing us, hunting us down as prey, trapping us and subjecting us to level 10 pain, which is what was done to most of us here. After that there's no tie, and incest victims make excellent spies because they can live a lie. When other, untrained people crack they go on with relative ease, which is one reason they are misunderstood.

Good point...when I unknowingly started talking to my sister about remembering things from childhood, seemed like that was the time she turned against me and started telling people I was psychotic.

So even though I wasn't actually "speaking up", maybe she thought it was time to protect herself and attack my credibility. That often happens in incestuous situations.

I agree, an incestuous family is not a family. It's taken me a long time to understand that. Maybe it's hard to let go of what I thought was a loving family, even if it was only an illusion. I really didn't know much about other families, mine kept to themselves a lot. I honestly thought that it was normal for sisters to be aggressive sexually with little brothers when nobody was around to see. At the age of eight, I had no frame of reference except my own sisters.

Back then, I really thought my family was normal, even if they did fight a lot and didn't show me any affection.

My "family" included me, my younger brother, mom and the abuser - my father.

My aunts and uncles will be very shocked when this opens up. My father is the black sheep of the family and has managed to piss off all siblings, but one of his brothers which would not surprise me to find out he abused his daughters. I have 12 aunts and uncles on that side of the family. 9 sibling are still living.

I know my brother didn't know what was going on as he was just 6 when the abuse started. My father used my mom against me and always said I would be in trouble. My mom was an angry person - and now I know why. But, she would spank for any reason. I was afraid of both of my parents.

So it has begun. I was with the detective for just over 3 hours. Poor guy must have a bad hand cramp. He wrote everything down. A very nice person to deal with. Now I wait for Fl. They have to let the officer here know how they need the report written. I'll keep you up to date with what is happening. I so appreciate your support of my journey.

But the good thing about him being the blacksheep Bobo is that the other family members most likely won't question it. My dad was the black sheep of the family too. His sister that I told said she wasn't surprised and that he was "weird". He was always doing inappropriate things growing up. He even told my mom once that he was an FBI informant and she believed him. He was a liar, molester and a thief. He's dead now so nothing can be done about it. Just feels good to get it all out though.

Ka, I am sure to be able to come here and share is a healing step. It has been for me. Sometimes I think if he were dead it would be a relief. I am not sorry to say but, I do wish it were him that past away instead of my mom.

You're right Bobohurts- it would probably be a relief when your father dies. It would be misplaced shame to feel sorry about that, so I'm glad you don't. Your father is a predator who could hurt someone else too. But my genuine condolences on the death of your mother. Life can be so unfair.

I grieved the death of my parents and siblings many times over, while they were still alive. Each of them individually. I don't know how many times I was desperate to forgive and start over. The up-side is I didn't grieve at all when my parents actually died, nor will I feel the least bit of sadness when my (imo) sociopathic sister and malignantly narcissistic brother pass on.

Anyone who can traumatize someone else in such a despicable way doesn't deserve to be missed. You deserve to be proud of your courage and the fact that you don't waste your precious gift of compassion on that man. You're an inspiration to every Survivor!

I thank everyone for your input on this discussion. It has been a very hard to bring this to the forefront of my family's life. With my father living next door we have to put on happy faces to make sure he does not find out about me talking to the police. I just pray this moves a little faster.

My mom has been my buffer for so many years. Now with her gone I feel like a baby without my blanket. My hope was for him to ask for my forgiveness and say he was sorry but, just weeks before my moms funeral he sat me down and explained how it was me who asked for him to pleasure me! At 8 I had no idea what he was doing to me.

Here I feel I have a group of people who understand and that in it's self is very comforting. I know I am not alone and not to blame for what happened to me.

Again, I thank you for your support in this journey I am on.

Bobo

I go tomorrow to do a video testimony. I went to my dad's with my son because I dont want to be alone with him. We got the last of the things. I wanted from my mom's house. A sewing machine she gave me and a Home Interior picture I had given her for the wall. Also got mail. I pray things move quickly. I can barely stand the thought of him. My dear mom is gone and that monster is still here. The more I think back the more I realize how much he took from me. He made me so afraid of my mom I never had that mother daughter relationship until then last few years of her life. My son's are my blessings and we are very close. But, if I ever am given the gift of a granddaughter she will be my little princess. Not that a grandson will not be a Prince. I am sure most if not all of you understand what I mean.

Do what is best for you alone and your healing and that will be the right answer. I didn't report for years but felt compelled too last year. He will be convicted monday and serve a 2 year sentence. He has ruined my life and I will always suffer mentally because of the abuse. Finally the world will recognize it. All the best too you. God Bless.

I totally would kudos to Florida for no longer having a SOL.

I just did my control call and the jerk admitted to what he had done to me as a child. The weight of a thousand elephants has been taken from my shoulders. Just a matter of time now and justice will be served.

OMG that's incredible!! Congratulations! Does this control call mean you have his confession on tape?

Congratulations! I am so happy for you.

Yeah!! Congratulations. Does this mean it's on tape his confession?