If by 'normal' you mean 'the same as everyone else' then no one is normal because we are all, each and every one of us, abused or not, different.

I'm normal for me and the life I have lived.

If by normal, you mean having the most similar traits to, then I'm very normal for an incest survivor.

I agree with the others. Define normal?

I can say that I am at peace and that I am happy. I still have triggers. I sometimes am sad. But then, who isn't sometimes sad?

I have learned so much and at a very good place in my life. I am happy. Now, that truly is odd because my husband is in the hospital right now and when he comes home will have a PIC line, IV antibiotics for 6 weeks and a wound that has to be packed and cared for daily.

But, I am happy. I have been through the worst life has to offer and have learned that I am strong enough to endure and get through. I have learned to let go of the past and live for today and a thousand tomorrows. I have learned that this to shall pass. I have learned to love those who deserved it and to let those go who don't. I have learned that being abused does not define me, the way I live my life does.

Hmm maybe I am not normal at all LOL

I hope you get my point, that there is life after abuse and you CAN be happy :)

Normal? I am a responsible, loving, caring person. I have been married for 20 years and have an 18 yr.old daughter and 15 yr. old son.

I have been at the same part time job for almost 13 years.

Although I was abused beginning at age 4-5 and for many years I stay true to myself. My core could not be broken no matter what I was going through physically and emotionally.

I have been to hell and back and I'm sure I will be doing the round trip many more times throughout my life. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder at 35-36 years old.

Normal? I have to say considering all I have been through - I have been as good as normal can get and my goal daily is to be the best I can be. Yes, I would say I am quite normal.

I have hope that one day I may have complete peace.

I have said to many people I will take my normal over many others....

I would ask --what scale are you using? is there a normal?
I know that I compare myself to a lot of people and I should'nt - But I do, and I keep finding myself failing in the scale of my normal. But I believe that i am getting to a place where I see myself as Normal.

i would say what is normal... it used to be a setting on a dryer, but i always asked what are normal clothes ... so if the clothes are not normal, then i know that i am no where near normal...
though i do need to say that there are " normal" things about all of us...
we breath to live, we need water to live, we are all on daily strength, and there are also things that are not normal... like....
the form of abuse that each and every one of us have been through. whether it was " mild" abuse, or life changing abuse... its all different, cause we are all different people.
me i was raped and molested, and just beat up over most of my life... there are folks out there who have been through the same type of things... but, does that make what i went through ( or anyone else) normal?? no abuse should never be the norm in any life here on earth. even animals get raped and attacked... but that doesnt make it normal.... i better stop before i really start getting annoying to everyone out there... is that normal...well, yeah most of the time...=+(

I guess we are as normal as we can be.

I'm not normal, I'm effin awesome!
:D

No, I am not normal. I am not normal at all. I look at the mirror and all I can see is a freak. I was normal once. I have memories of being normal up to about 5. Then the normalness was stolen from me.

I agree with the others that normal is all relative. But if you are asking, can we go on and be productive, loving and happy...then yes. I have been married for 30 years, have 2 grown kids and 1 grandchild and one on the way. My kids are very well adjusted and my husband and I truly still love one another. I have completed college, never did drugs, drink little (well, sometimes not so little) and have a nice job and home. Yes people look at me and think I'm "normal." But they have no clue...I'm suffer from my abuse, but I try not to let it define me.
Am I normal...NO, but I don't want to be either...