Incest Survivors Support Group
Incest refers to any sexual activity between closely related persons that is illegal or socially taboo. Consensual adult incest is very rare. Incest between adults and prepubescent or adolescent children is a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme forms of childhood trauma. If you or a loved one is a survivor of incest, join the group...
I have been scrolling on this site looking and reading. Searching for something to connect with. I have so many issues, it really is quite funny. But this issue incest has caught my attention. I have read many of these entries. And I see a little bit of me in almost everyone of them. The anger, the fears, the shame. The wanting to shout from the mountain tops..THIS IS NOT MY FAULT!!!!!!!!!
But one memory in particuler is hanging out in my head and making me want to scream. When I was 35 and I had not ever, up to that point sat my Mother down and talked to her about the abuse. I did finally sit her down. And I told her that I was aware that she had been aware of what my father had been doing to myself and my two sister and every other little girl he knew. And I asked her, why didn't you do something to stop this. And she said to me "I didn't because if he was messing with you or one of the other girls...HE WAS LEAVING ME ALONE!!!!!! My mother allowed my father to rape me so he wouldn't touch her....And the flood gates are open......................................
But one memory in particuler is hanging out in my head and making me want to scream. When I was 35 and I had not ever, up to that point sat my Mother down and talked to her about the abuse. I did finally sit her down. And I told her that I was aware that she had been aware of what my father had been doing to myself and my two sister and every other little girl he knew. And I asked her, why didn't you do something to stop this. And she said to me "I didn't because if he was messing with you or one of the other girls...HE WAS LEAVING ME ALONE!!!!!! My mother allowed my father to rape me so he wouldn't touch her....And the flood gates are open......................................
Thank you for sharing. If you havent noticed already this is a very safe place to be and talk about really anything. I have found some of the things I thought were horrific and I was so ashamed about, many others had the same issues. It is freeing to have people accept you and not judge you and truly care!
If you dont have one, I would recommend if you can afford it trying out a therapist. I find a good one has helped me along with this site.
Im so sorry you had to hear that from your own mother. Tell me you smacked the shit out of her! I would have.
Shame on her. UGH-
Just know there are many wonderful people here that can and will offer support to hopefully ease your pain. Sending a (((hug)))
She deserves to burn in hell!
Tyler- I wanted to, I wanted to hurt her in the worse way. But my mother was also and abuser. I refer to her as the women in the movie Cybil. And had I hit her. I would have been no better then her.
And all of this as I named the post "The flood gates have opened" .
I have spent this day looking at all the abusers I have to cope with in my life. I thought I was smart enough to be safe from further abuse once I had survived my family and my youth. But I guess I'm not as smart as I thought I was. Thank you for the support and the responses. I don't feel so all alone right now.
The screen name they are my initials.
Where does the low road get you? Jail time with a charge of a deadly weapon. The feeling that you took your life back, by nailing that bitch in the face. Respect for yourself.
Im a low road person. I think its good that you took the high road, there is nothing wrong with that. Im just tired of taking it, and Im tired of feeling helpless against my own feelings. I want to take them back and make them mine, not theirs.
Good for you, you live longer taking the high road.
My mother blamed me for my grandfather's transgressions. I was the dirty little girl who seduced poor grandpa.
I haven't nearly finished with her yet. I'll keep y'all posted on that one.
I have found it helpful to see her as a victim, not sure of what, but no healthy woman/mother behaves like ours. Something must have gone wrong with them in their developing years too.
I think I knew that day after this women pushed me to attempt suicide at 16years old. That if I started too hit her, I would not stop till I had paid her back for 16 years of pure torture.
I have never been able to look at my Mom as a victim. If she could make the decision to allow what she allowed to happen. Then she was capable of making the decision to stop itMy mother threw my father out when I was 7 years old. Ok now I am laughing because if I don't I'll just start screaming. She thru that asshole out BECAUSE HE CHEATED ON HER!!!!!!!!!!!!
Evil.
Of course your mother deserves nothing but contempt.
I have a compulsion to explain things, to know WHY people are so evil and cruel.
I did not mean to suggest she deserved sympathy.
Of course your mother deserves nothing but contempt.
I have a compulsion to explain things, to know WHY people are so evil and cruel.
I did not mean to suggest she deserved sympathy.