I am 61 years old. I was married for 18 years and our sex life slowly disappeared. Part of the problem was my wife suffered from severe depression (she spent most of her life in bed hiding under the covers) and totally neglected me, the kids, and every thing. I ended up with depression also and was put on various different depression meds and finally we got divorced in 1992. I was single till 2006. I had no interest in sex during that time and finally decided I needed to be checked out. I went to an endocrinologist and she ran tests and found my testosterone level was very low. She put me on Androgel and it definitely helped.

My sex drive returned and I decided to try to find someone. I found a great woman about 500 miles away so we took turns commuting back and forth. I was able to have sex with her when we were together, not a lot but it was good. Over the next few years we traveled back and forth and finally got married. I was put on Blood pressure medicine and also metformin for diabetes. Our sex life came to a stop. I was unable to get an erection. We tried off and on but gradually our sex life became non-existant.
I went to a urologist and he tested me and said he couldn't find anything wrong and gave me an Rx for a penis pump, I tried it but never could get it to work. My Internal Medicine doctor gave me an Rx for Cialis, Levitra, and finally Viagra, none of which worked.

My wife says it doesn't bother her, but I know it does, heck it bothers the heck out of me. I found that I can occasionally get an erection, if I lay on my back and don't move, but it doesn't last long enough to do anything. I can masturbate and ejaculate but I never get hard.

My wife has suggestion using a strap on, but when we tried it, it didn't work well. I have tried oral sex on my wife, but unfortunately she has trouble having orgasms and the only way she can orgasm is if she masturbates herself, even then it takes a long long time for her to get there. I am at wits end. Nothing seems to work. Anyone have any suggestion??