I don't like to brag. Because I know I'm lucky to get it 3 to 4 times a week. Probably because for what I feed my husband.

I know when men are stressed it can be harder for them and with different health issues or medications.

Most of all when men are younger I'd when they really have there sex drive but when women get older they end up wanting it more and more.

I've noticed ever since I've had my kids I've really wanted more than usual where I've had to buy a couple of toys no not as good but I don't wanna wear out my husband where he won't want it.

The incidence of any form of ED’s is really high. Most males hide it (of course, who wants to brag about it?) but is really common.

What @Able76 said

Sex is a huge deal for a healthy relationship. Not everyone is willing to keep a relationship where sex is not good or even worse, non existent. No woman wants a dysfunctional partner.

Mary at our age most men will have an issue. I've learned that is is far more common now in some younger men as well.

There's alot of things at play ...usual health issues but stress , anxiety, depression as well.

Able is right....no one will brag about this.

Don't forget the effects of porn. If you watch to much of it sometimes a real live naked female hasn't the same affect as it once did. When you see nice boobies and tata's all day with porn it's bound to have an effect.

Sometimes the Rooster don't crow like it uster lol

I was listening to Dr. John Gray on the Coast to Coast radio show about the effects of low testosterone on men and high estrogen in women. Porn is deadly to a man's ability to have sex with a woman he explained. He talked about how the younger men masturbate to porn and then don't have real relationships. Any health issues like diabetes or heart disease will likely affect or create ED. How many men do you know who don't have a health issue? I think if you are faced with this issue again, talk to the man lovingly and see if he is willing to cuddle, kiss, just get in bed without clothes and be loving. Don't demand sex but talk about mutual love giving and see if they are closed to that as they are not givers or open to that as lovers and givers. Maybe you attract takers who aren't sexually attracted to you or maybe ED is a real thing at our age. Work with what you have and don't just accept that it has to be one way or the highway. Talk to them and ask some questions rather than blame yourself. Honestly, it could be their excuse if they are not even willing to do the cuddling and kissing stuff. But you need to get beyond your self blame and start to communicate and ask questions of these men in a kind, loving manner. If any man is better than no man, we attract users and zeros. So you get to decide if you are worth finding that good man or if you just want any man. You are a good woman and keep looking.

Also know that ED is embarrassing to most men. It can be something that causes them shame. So if you are aware of how they might be feeling about their ED issues, then you can talk about this without blaming yourself or blaming them. You can honestly ask if they find you sexually attractive and ask them to be honest with you. What I have noticed is many of us get older and "let ourselves go" physically and then wonder why our partners are turned off. Men get the big beer belly as it is called or stop grooming their facial hair. Women also have weight issues or they stop wearing current modern clothing (I have an older woman friend who still wears her overalls from the '80s and looks like a nut even though I offer to take her shopping for modern clothing). Some women get that really skinny emaciated look. Just examples, I don't know you and I am not blaming you. But I do observe people and my husband is honest with me about sexual attraction. Its something to think about anyway if you are pondering what the deal is. If you are interested in sexual activies with any person but no relationship, consider looking into swinging. Not trying to offend you but there are lots of men and less women at these things. If you are interested that is. Different strokes for different folks as we used to say.

I can tell from my very own painful personal experience. Embarrassment is real. Performance anxiety is real. Afraid of failure is real. Self pressure is real. Is like a cycle. You try , you fail, you retreat , you try again. At least that’s my experience. Everyone is different and every couple faces it differently. I can share my experience more deeply if that’s helpful.

Able I believe that is very true. I think it is probably far worse for those who simply try dating with no connection.

That's the thing...if you do care about someone you try but understand the others pain if they have an issue.

With my late husband, his choice was to just shut down. No more sex, affection... In hindsight maybe it was because he did not want to try and fail? But for me the rejection and resentment was too much

Veggiequeen: of course every coin have 2 sides. I understand my wife situation and I never stopped showing affection. Matter of fact I was always trying to overcompensate my only failure. That was probably my biggest mistake.. I should probably go to a real doctor and face my condition

Just curious, how do you respond when they tell you this? Do they just stop talking to you after its brought up or do you pull away from them? Do you tell them you that you feel there is more to a guy than just his penis? If you are still interested in having a relationship with them maybe you need to express that more.
I am pretty sure ED is becoming more of a problem. So its very possible they are just being honest with you. You should not feel bad about yourself for something you cannot know for sure. Its possible they are still interested but need reassurance
Well just my 2 cents

Has he tried eating plant-based vegan? Getting rid of cholesterol seems to cure ED. I myself tend to get very horny easily and will want to have sex just as much as a lady would want it. Stress doesn't affect me either, stress gets me even hornier.

Stress is a huge erection killer I have found out personally. The more relaxed the better. Alcohol is another hard on killer and a lot of guys drink everyday.