Healthy Sex Support Group

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TURNED OFF!

MariahB
MariahB

i get turned off sooooo easily...I know part of it is because I feel like he isn’t satisfying me in bed and the other part is just the way he talks, thinks at times and just physical things that turn me off. I don’t wanna feel like I’m being mean but it’s just how I feel. I used to be overly sexual and now I avoid him and intimacy all together. 

Barry
Barry
Maybe some kind of sexual activity other than intimacy would be worth a try. Masturbation is one, but there are others. Good luck. Barry
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
I think men are less likely to let things bother them then women are.
In any relationship, it's important to leave problems outside the bedroom door.
Communication is key.
finallyawakenow
finallyawakenow
Ok so I read this and had to smile to myself. Two years ago my wife could have written this. And she would not have been mean but justified in doing so. The thing is I had gotten myself stuck in a very deep rut and wasn’t growing. While this wasn’t obvious to me at the time it was causing her to lose attraction for me. I made some changes and have adopted a healthier lifestyle which has completely altered how I see myself. And how I see her. I no longer take her for granted. Being present has been a miracle for our relationship. I almost lost her before I woke up to the fact that we can never stop improving ourselves. Otherwise nothing changes and I have to admit that’s kind of boring. A great side effect of being healthier is that my libido woke up too. She needed me to take initiative in bed. For some crazy reason (which I get now) I wasn’t getting that and she didn’t know how to tell me. I see now that, to her, telling me what she wanted would defeat the whole thing. I hope you can find a way to express your feelings to him. It’s a tough situation where we can’t change our partner but we can learn how to talk about changes.
FarmMom
FarmMom
Communicate!
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