It's about more than sex dude. She is your best friend, your soulmate. If you need others, then your relationship is f**ked up.

I agree

I totally understand polyamory. I agree with the philosophy in many ways. It is 100% normal to feel a connection with other people. We are human, our souls dance freely. To view the man made union of marriage from the perspective of the soul is to deny yourself, your heart and in many cases your minds ability. We are very social beings trying to live by mans rule and when we stray from that, even mentally, we are made to feel guilt, shame, told that something is wrong or missing. Perhaps we have it all wrong in the first place. Maybe just maybe we are here to fulfill a place in the lives of some of the fortunate people we connect with. Maybe we are here to nurture the souls of several. I love my husband, but that does not mean that my heart is dead to others. In fact sometimes it is others that keep me happy with myself, strengthening the relationship I have with him.

label all of it what you want, married, polygomy(whatever its called) ... yeah try controlling the heart, its cant be done. Feeling appear and come up and the mind follows and labels them. Love has no boundaries...therefore.. to really live is to honor it everywhere.

the challenge is how to express it to satisfy where you are

i think that we humans are unbelievably capable of rationalizing any behavior that we want to indulge.

so much damage has been done in the name of love.

I agree to some extent with your quote on damage and love, but I think the quote applies equally to both sides of the discussion.

I have said it before and am gonna say it again
It can work as long as everyone is honest and above board. You can't help who the heart wants but there has to be honesty and communication.

YES!

while I do think there can be a connection with someone other than a spouse, I do NOT think it gives us permission to act on it.

I have personally been approached by my last boyfriend, He deceived me for 9 months before telling me he was married. During our relationship he had asked me to marry him several times, knowing he was already married.

When I found out I was devastated, then he had the nerve to tell me that we could still be together but it would be the three of us and that his wife was okay with it. Well I didn't believe him about his wife so I talked to her personally and she was willing to accept me into their relationship.

I don't care what anyone says I could not do it, I would feel like a dirty little secret. How do you explain this kind of relationship to family and friends without me since I am the new women and the one not married to him as the slut and home breaker.

Besides the fact I am not wired to share the man I love and that is what it truly boils down to. So the only answer was goodbye

I have a friend who was raised in a polygamous family. She has several half sisters and brothers. They all love each other and share everything. I have known a few others who were into the concept. They claimed that they loved each other equally and seemed to have no problem sharing.

Visited the polygamous family last night and so I was wondering if there were others who also had similar ideas about relationships. It seems like it would only be natural that one could love and have an attachment to more than one person. I do not believe in the "Only one soul mate out there" concept.

The true relationship of polarmory are not the orgy filled slut fest that most imagine. It is relationships where yes one is having sex with more than 1 but there is love on all sides and respect. There is no adultry and going outside the realtionship (however it is defined) is usually not accepted.

I wouldnt mind having 2 guys bcuz one cant keep up with my sex drive not 2 at once but u get done with one and go 2 the 2nd one

"The true relationship of polarmory are not the orgy filled slut fest that most imagine. It is relationships where yes one is having sex with more than 1 but there is love on all sides and respect. There is no adultry and going outside the realtionship (however it is defined) is usually not accepted... SomenesBtch"

I agree it is basically the same as a normal conventional relationship, except more people are involved. Not to mention much safer than just going out and having sex with anyone who comes along. All the individuals are committed to each other and the relationship.

I have talked to people, mostly women who said they could NEVER allow anyone to share their husbands. I suppose if that is their thing, more power to them, I still think that people can love more than one person at a time.

I have tried polyamory myself, and do think it is a good idea for some people. It would be ideal for me if I could find the right two partners to do it with. It is really difficult to pull off because often times someone is left out and gets hurt, or someone gets jealous, etc. I have seen it work though and it can be a beautiful thing when it does.