Healthy Sex Support Group
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SO another emotional start to my day.
After my last post. We have had a few days break, so this morning we start to make love ( well, have sex anyway) and were getting on okay. Then he wanted to do a position I don't particularly like, which he knows does nothing for me, the same one which caused issues before, and I said ' can you come on top' I love it when you are on top of me and I can feel all of you' and that was it. Game over.
It seems that because I won't do what he wants he won't play. I like to communicate during sex not just lie there! To me its supposed to be a way of showing how much you love someone, and of giving them pleasure. So I communicate.
I tried to cajole him into keeping going, but no he wasn't having any of it.
His way or no way!
It isn't that we are sexually incompatible, I believe you can have great sex with anyone if you can both communicate what you need. and care about each others needs.
I feel like he is playing games and 'punishing' me. He is big on the tit-for-tat style of relationship which I know is typical Narcissist trait.
I am sick of crying in the shower every morning and I said so.
So I went in the shower for my cry. Came out and its as if it never happened. He's all chatty and fine with me.
Where do I go with this? I feel this slipping away. Im not sure that is such a bad thing as I am aware there are issues with him that are worrying. but I want to try.
After my last post. We have had a few days break, so this morning we start to make love ( well, have sex anyway) and were getting on okay. Then he wanted to do a position I don't particularly like, which he knows does nothing for me, the same one which caused issues before, and I said ' can you come on top' I love it when you are on top of me and I can feel all of you' and that was it. Game over.
It seems that because I won't do what he wants he won't play. I like to communicate during sex not just lie there! To me its supposed to be a way of showing how much you love someone, and of giving them pleasure. So I communicate.
I tried to cajole him into keeping going, but no he wasn't having any of it.
His way or no way!
It isn't that we are sexually incompatible, I believe you can have great sex with anyone if you can both communicate what you need. and care about each others needs.
I feel like he is playing games and 'punishing' me. He is big on the tit-for-tat style of relationship which I know is typical Narcissist trait.
I am sick of crying in the shower every morning and I said so.
So I went in the shower for my cry. Came out and its as if it never happened. He's all chatty and fine with me.
Where do I go with this? I feel this slipping away. Im not sure that is such a bad thing as I am aware there are issues with him that are worrying. but I want to try.
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So mad at Xfinity! They're trying to charge me $115 per month for the same service I had been paying $50 the last four years. I took the equipment to UPS for shipping and cancelled my subscription today! Next door was a cookie shop called Crumbl. I had heard of it before but never went in until today. I don't need one more sugar fix, but maybe it will help with my sad) grieving heart....$15...
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I know this is stupid, but after not being able to find a job after graduation for almost two years, I ended up just taking an online teaching job because I couldn't find anything in my field. I was trying to get out of teaching and I feel so devastated. I felt this crushing feeling when I signed the paperwork and when I was in the meetings. I know that sounds so dramatic but it is how I felt. It...
He actually followed me to a meeting a few weeks ago. He keeps making snide comments about who I am meeting. He has also started going out to teach me how it feels he said. ( this is during the day, not evenings. )
I understand he may be feeling insecure but I am allowed a life and I am allowed to also say what sexual positions I prefer - !
Please, Please, Please, leave this man. This has been going on for so long and he is not making any effort to even try.
It isn't just in the bedroom. He wants ALL the control and then acts like a baby when he doesn't get his way.
I really feel for you. I wish I could give you a big fat hug.
You deserve a good man.
I have no financial independence and have to ask him for every penny.
I needed new reading glasses yesterday and he made a big show of paying for me and telling everyone this would be for my birthday and Xmas.
siiigh. I was so humiliated.
I have taken advice about divorce but if I left him now it would mean I couldn't carry on with my training, I should be done by the end of the year.
He really does sulk.
Im waiting for the credit card bill to hit the mat ..gulp. he will go mental. Its okay for him to spend but not me, even though he doesn't give me any money. Its not my kind of team - work. I would struggle to get an apartment without a job for a few years.
I would like it to be better while I am here.
This man just seems impossible and has put you in a really crappy position. He has full control.
Until you can leave I don't even know what to tell you to do to keep the peace until you leave.
Let's see what other posters have to say.
Big hugs
. He used to penetrate me when I was sleeping. I'm not sure he knows what love is.
Making love is just that it should be two people working twords the satisfaction of each other. NOt one trying to get off and using the others body to do it. That isnt even sex in the general catagorization that everyone uses. If he was a real man he would do all he could to please you and not himself.
Sunny!
That is crazy!!!
I actually want to kick this guys ass.
I kinda felt bad before saying leave him but now, I don't feel bad at all.