"Normal" is a setting on your dishwasher. Oral sex is a pleasurable activity that many people enjoy. Not everyone does enjoy it however and there are some people that see it a aberrant sexual behavior. Other people have the lack of oral sex as a deal breaker in a sexual relationship.

As the others have stated, what is consensual between two people is fine. When you do something or ask for something that the other person does NOT want to do, then it is no longer "fine" and is something you have to discuss with your partner.

Geez, Silent, Life is to short to be with selfish people in bed. Hold out. Maybe she'll learn to be more giving and stop taking oral for granted!

Oral sex is amazing if it's done right. Personally I love to tease a woman with her mind first so she really gets into it, as I am teasing her. I build her anticipation with erotic talk, edgy sometimes, dirty, sexy, flirty, fun - whatever, build the mood slowly until she is squirming. I will tease her back, between her shoulders, back of her legs, inner thighs, arches of her feet, back of her neck around avoiding actually going down on her until she is begging for it. Makes for a great night and plenty of "fireworks":)

I think whatever feels good to you and your partner is normal. If you want to pleasure each other that way it should be voluntary.

Back in the day when I was having sex, I loved to lick her. Gets me more aroused to please the woman. We used to do 69 a lot. But communication is important so that you are pleasuring and no causing discomfort. As long as you both like it and are honest about it.

Ah those were the good old days.

Yes it is very normal and so very enjoyable I love it and miss it. :)

Miss it? What happened Destiny? if you don't mind me asking.....

I am all for oral sex, there isnt anything wrong with itand if u all enjoying it then whats the problem.

I've mentioned it to her before and she says she isn't thrilled about giving oral but that she is willing to do it because it pleases me yet she doesn't stick by her word and it never happens. Its a common theme around these parts with her. She is wonderful but sometimes things go over her head because she is too worried about things that are coming up within our lives.

I just need to try to hold out from giving her oral and see if she gets the hint. Life IS too short not to be short sided! Ill go back to masturbation to hold out on her until she gets it if i have to. I believe pleasuring your partner is a huge form of intimacy and showing you care about the other person. so we will see, haha

Why would you want her to do something she clearly does not want to do? If she is not in to giving you oral then why can't you just accept that and respect it and find other things to do together?

Why is it such a big deal to you for her to give you a blow job?

Just asking. Not judging but if your Girlfriend doesn't want to then why can't you just let it go? Nobody wants to feel like they have to do something sexually. That kind of pressure is a total turn off.

Just saying....

Also that is really childish of you that you would not give her oral just because she will not give it to you. That is punitive and mean of you. I just don't get that at all. i think that is playing a game and a very childish one.

She doesn't hate doing it, she just hates doing it from time to time and has fallen into a habit of having me do everything so it feels one sided when I enjoy stimulation from a mouth on my penis just as much as she likes me to give her oral as well.

Relationships are a give and take and they require work and when physical needs are met on one side but not on the other it seems a little one sided. I would understand if she told me she wasn't into giving me a blow job and never wanted to do it, but she has done it more times than I can count and just recently has not done it for some time. I'm not forcing her hand and I have talked to her about it and she said things would change but they haven't so i'm just going to try something to get her attention on the matter is all.

I like that you have opinions on the matter daisygirl , i'm curious what your relationship status currently is and if you have come into any issues within your sexual life that effects one person or the other like that.

It sounds to me like there is something else going on in your relationship. I would suggest talking about it with her and see what happens.

I also think that if you feel the relationship is one-sided you tell her that is how you feel and maybe take a step back and re-evaluate the relationship.

Maybe there is something else going on with her and she is going thru something on her own. Just a thought.

I wish you luck and hope things get resolved and the two of you can be happy together. Just remember sex is not everything.
It is just part of the whole picture. Good communication and talking is so important. :)

I would have a terrible time without the communication with my girlfriend. we have an unwritten rule that I will go down on her first, then she'll give me a BJ. There's a number of times we are happy simply w/ foreplay & sex, but for that little extra pleasure....I'll go down on her.

Hi all....it's been awhile since I've been around. Used to be debra49659 but found out my ex was spying on me. Creepy.
It's stopped but feel safer with a new screen name.

Sooooo many new folks here!! Hi Deb, I remember you....yours is the only familiar screen name I've come across so far!

Every bodies different. I love giving oral more than I enjoy given. But I like to please. If a woman don't much care to give a BJ (and I've known many), why not ask for a hand job. It all starts with communication and compatibility.

Debra

What is with all this "I will do you if you will do me?"
Why can't someone just want to make the other person feel good and if they do it to them that time then fine and if not then the next time.
It is like too planned out and too much pressure. It should happen naturally and it feels like it is making a trade. Just saying...
What is with all the strings attached in wanting to make someone feel good? It sounds like "lets make a deal" LOL