I mean no disrespect by this men can complicate anything as well as women but if it has tits an ovaries it is going to be complicated.

Have an open discussion with your next woman .. personally , I love it . It almost cant be done wrong . Watch some porn to get ideas if you feel clueless . My man loves it so much he gets an instant hard-on when he goes down on me .. which of course leads to extra treats for him ..There are times he gets so off he has to stop to fuck me on the spot but he tries to control his urges . As far as I am concerned , I win either way . Stop thinking of it as complicated . Educate yourself , have open communicatio with your mate , relax and go wild with that tongue !

Oral sex is not sex the way God intended to procreate children, but that doesn't mean oral sex is bad! If the women you've been talking to find giving and receiving it degrading, and you like to give and receive it, you've been talking to the wrong women.

Relationships are complicated when it comes to a lot of things, sex, emotional compatibility...

Don't fret about what is "normal" (there is no such thing as "normal"), just think about what YOU want, then communicate that to a woman. Just like every other area of compatibility, your desire to give and receive oral sex will eventually strike a harmonious chord with a woman who loves it.

YES! It is normal!

I have a guy who just loves to go down on me all the time. I love to go down on him as well. We are both very giving people sexually and it works out well.

I've had way too many guys in the past who either flat out refuse to give oral sex while expecting me to get them off with my mouth, or at best give a few second lick and think that's enough. Uhm, no no no.

I've been told the greatest of excuses. "I don't want to work my tongue that much" or "most women don't like it so I don't do it" (with the implication that I am a nympho freak for wanting it.)

Women aren't born knowing how to give head. I know what guys like because I've experimented and can tell what pleases them. The same goes for guys. No guy is born knowing exactly how a woman likes to be pleased. You can ask her to verbally tell you what she likes (as you're doing it) or you can pay attention to her body language. You will get better at time.

Oral sex CAN be degrading when you date assholes who expect it on the 1st or 2nd date and just whip it out with that expectation. Yeah, I've had that happen more than once! Of course these same guys have NO intention of reciprocating. It's all about getting them off.

Oral sex can be a great thing in the context of a loving relationship where sex is about both giving and receiving. If a girl won't do it (give/receive) then just know your sex life will be a bit more limited. I much prefer pushing it further, but maybe that's just me.

What the heck is normal? If 2 people are comfortable doing something then that is all that matters. That is my opinion.
Also nobody has the right to judge anyone. What happens between two consenting adults should be between them. As long as it is something that both people want to do and they don't feel pressured to do then I think it is okay. But everyone is different. To each their own.
Be happy and hope this is helpful.

It's only degrading if you won't return the favor. lol.

faykay.....you are kidding....right? LOL

Daisy, yes I was kidding, but it is also nice when he will "give you a licking" as well!!!

Speaking for no one but myself, I don't see oral sex as degrading. Rather, I see giving it as a submissive act... probably a big part of the reason I tend to feel a little awkward receiving it.

I have to disagree with Faykay here, I give much more than I receive on the oral sex front, and I have no problem with it. Of course, I don't have a problem with it because it's not something I particularly want. If he wants to eat me, he can tie me down lol ;)

Oh Deb, you're such a sweet heart!

I love to please... so giving oral sex to a man I love is one of my most favorite things to do in the world. A man who is just in it for himself can go on his merry way...putting it nicely. lol

Deb,

A lot of men will take you up on the offer of tying you down...LOL
So funny and so cute.


Hi Bubba! :)

Oh Deb, Faykay this is wonderful.
NOw tell me the hidden passcode to get in the door that allows me to get my woman to give me oral pleasure because as of now sex is all I get. She gets oral just about EVERYTIME where the fuck is mine???

Have you talked to her about it? If so what did she have to say?

Does she like to give oral? If she doesn't like it and cannot get in to it then that could be n issue. I would talk about it with her but not in the bedroom. Bring it up when you are just hanging out and maybe having lunch or dinner or taking a walk together. Just say this "I have been thinking...I so enjoy making you feel good and giving you pleasure and I was wondering do you not like giving blow jobs?" See what she says. Tell her what you would like and is she willing to do that. I would think that by now if she wanted to preform oral on you she would have, Maybe she doesn't like to give it. But you have to ask her to know. Maybe she is uncomfortable and doesn't know if she is good at it or if you want it. The only way is to talk about it. Communication is key. How about this. Don't have intercourse and just plan time to fool around and please each other orally. No intercourse. Think of it as an "oral date" LOL WOOHOO!