You need to tell him what it is you want.Tell him how you feel and how he makes you feel I mean dont come on crazy strong cause. If he doesnt see it this way not even a little you will creep him out. It's possible he doesn,t have a clue that this is were your head is.but shit why go through that pain of wonder and why's of hurt.sometimes only one person in a relationship can feel as if there is a strong connection as the other doesnt. By being open will show you how much of an connection he truly has good luck

I agree with Davis... being open and upfront with him is the wisest option. Better than pretending the things don't bother you when they clearly do, and he probably isn't going to change, certainly not if he doesn't know how you feel. I hope things work out for you, everyone deserves to feel a connection to someone like you do.

He’s made it clear he isn’t looking for a relationship so he’s clearly not going to stop seeing other girls.

I’ve said multiple times you can be honest with me you don’t need to lie to me it actually really hurts and upsets me. But he professes that he’s telling the truth. But he isn’t.

You are right when or since I have tried to have these conversations with him he has weirded out on me and backed off so now I’m just to scared to say anything

Things were so different to start he was so close to me always wanting to see me begging me to stay longer with him. But I caught him out in a big lie and shit just got all fucked up since

I’m trying to fix things but I don’t know how

Wow, I feel for you. Here is some really good advice I got from my counselor....Is he really the guy? Is the connection truely real? Here is why I ask.,,.
He doesn’t eat a relationship, you do. He lies to you...very bad! Relationships must be built on a foundation of trust. You can’t trust him....
You feel he puts other women in front of you....I would NEVER do that if it was someone I loved or was really starting to connect with! That is also not a good sign..,.
He loves the sex....you both do. Is it just sex? That is not real either....
All I am saying is that it is easy to convince ourselves that something is actually better or more special than it actually is. I was in a similar situation and I wrote down all of the bad and it outweighs the good by a long shot....pretty compelling. GL

I am sorry you are going through this. I strongly suggest getting out now; it will only get worse. If you leave now on your terms you can salvage your self-respect. It will hurt but remember that you deserve way better. Best wishes to you.

Your both right I know your right and that’s what’s so sad.

Why do I stay? Why do I let him treat me like this when I know that he’s doing all these things behind my back and also in front of me?

What is wrong with me?

In the beginning it was different so different and maybe I’m just holding onto dear life to that and that maybe if I just stick with him through all this shit through all this bs and the really tough time he might turn around and be that guy with me again.

The thing is I am trying to get away to break free and move on. I do not contact him and feel if I just don’t ever hear from him again then fine it’s fine with it’s over he’s not interested and I’m not going to chase him

But then he msgs one stupid msg and I reply. But he won’t reply for days. He says thinks I’m those msgs like there should be a reply back but I just don’t hear anything.

I don’t get it. Why bother with me if you don’t like me don’t want to see me. Just Fuk me off. Let me be in peace.

I don’t know if maybe it’s something I’m doing or saying or maybe not doing or saying.

I’m so confused.

I actually hate myself for this too :(

well this ais a tough situation because it sounds like the sex is great but it has no commitment or strings attached and he is free to see other people it is kinda hard to want him to be exclusive now with just you. I think if you continue to have sex with him you have to make up your mind that it is just sex and not somethings deeper than that like love. I think if he tells you he wants to be with only you now it is a set up for cheating.

Well I agree with everyone above. You have two choices. One is to talk with him and try to explain your feelings for him and depending on his answer you gonna decide what you want after and second choice is just enjoy sex with him as much as you can. You said that the sex with him is great. That’s very important. Also I understood that he already has been clear with you. Seems like he wants just sex.

We as woman tend to never listen. He said he didnt want a relationship, hes not into you, you refused to hear that. He is not cheating on you, it just sex and nothing else. why just to mesg back, dont msg at all. You misread all the signs, Moved on because you are only hurting yourself. you dont need to discuss anything with him because he already said what he wants, and its not you.

@newstart4me2 he has not said to me that he is not into me, he has said that he is not ready for a relationship.

If a guy straight out said to me ‘I’m not into you’ I’m not that stupid that I’d continue to be with him in any way shape or form.

Yes I agree with what everyone has said I have actually have three choices I either tell him how it’s making me feel and see what comes of that, if anything changes or what he says, I can just accept it for what it is, but I don’t feel I can do that as I can’t seperate my feelings for him and now feeling now but just sex with him, or I can just walk away and not look back.

It just kills me because I know the guy he is and will one day be ready to be :(

He may sound like the biggest prick and his actions towards me right now are, BUT he really isn’t he is a beautiful human I think something just got fucked up somewhere somehow and he’s changed.

He’s always said he’s a very closed off person until he is ready to give his all.

How long have you been seeing him? If it's less than a year, I would say you are his Friends With Benefits. When a guy says he doesn't want a relationship, he doesn't want a relationship. Maybe never will. Certainly not anytime soon. Thank him for his honesty. Of course he was great and different and sweet in the beginning... he wanted sex. Sorry, but that's the truth. He has made it clear that he doesn't want a relationship. So if that's what you are looking for, and you want it to be just you and him, that is not going to happen. If you are falling for him, you will definitely get hurt. You can block his number so that you won't feel tempted to reply back to his texts. And lastly, please be safe. He is sleeping with who knows how many other girls and so please protect yourself against pregnancy and STDs.

You deserve better.....MUCH better!

God Bless

Either just enjoy the sex, with protection, since he's screwing around

Or

End it if you can't handle feeling like a whore outside the confines of a committed relationship.

There is allot more to this than I put in this post I think I’ve made him sound allot better than he actually is / was.

He wasn’t honest and upfront with me AT ALL. I had to find this out myself after he lied and hid it all from me and only after he was caught out did he have choice but to admit it.

He did not say upfront that he did not want a relationship, quite the opposite. I actually put it to him as it somehow came up about a past relationship of his that he led a girl on for 8 mths and she got over it and walked away, I said I didn’t want to end up like that and he said he was in a totally different space now, I said if your just wanting something casual then just let me know be upfront.

He was very very very clingy the way he acted was like we were in a relationship in the beginning he wanted to spend all his time with me never wanted me to leave got jealous of other guys etc

Anyway things changed when he got caught and and the tables seem to change and he started treating me awfully. I even said then look if your not into this then say so and he still said stop being silly.

Anyway I ended up getting jack of his treatment I am better than that I’m not a whore I’m not a fucking bitch I deserve fucking respect and I walked away! Fuck him. Fuck people who treat you like shit. Lie to you betray you. And all the while do it to multiple girls at a time.

This has and will still affect me for a long time to come as I don’t know what I ever did to deserve this shit. Why guys do this to females. Why they need to lie and not just be honest. Ruin people’s lives after doing so.

I honestly have just lost all trust now and have no interest in meeting anyone new.

Sorry for the rant I’m just so upset angry hurt.