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I'm not sure this is normal.

Beckay
Beckay
Hi, I'm 17, I won't bore ya wit my story y I feel the way I do but: most of my friends have had sex and are like u shud do it. but the problem is I get close 2 doing it, n then i duno i get kinda scared, and my body just tenses up, and I can't do it. N the thought about having sex repulses me in a way. Iv had boyfriends that have been very dodgy, and it's only recently become a problem of not wanting sex. I'm still a virgin aswel. Du fink there's something wrong with me, because how come everybody else enjoy's it, but I can't bring myself to do it. :/
BrokenEye
BrokenEye
Its simple Beckay, you are not ready, and there is nothing wrong with you, posting this on a teen board might get you some better answers.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with Broken....on all counts...you might get the answers you are looking for if you posted your question to folks closer to your own age....we're a bunch of ol' farts in here...no offense meant btw!
Beckay
Beckay
ha ha ha. ok thnk u 4 the advise. :).x
BrokenEye
BrokenEye
I take serious issue with that slur, sugar, I may be old but I'm not a fart....no, wait a sec...Hmmm Okay, a fart as well :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
Ah Broken, I meant it with the most dear love and respect!!
BrokenEye
BrokenEye
Still...the hurt may take many years to heal, got any pics? :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thhhppphhhttt!!!!!!!

As a matter of fact......

;)
deleted_user
deleted_user
hmmm not sure if you will get better answers from teens your age... they seem to think being a virgin is a disease. for some it is a choice to not have sex. Bottom line is once you have sex you cannot get your first time back and as Broken said in an earlier thread... it is not written in a book as to what age you must lose your virginity.(or somthing to that effect)

You need to be ready, you need to trust that the guy wants the same as you... be it relationship or a one night stand.

What ever your decision... and it has to bo yours... make sure you are protected from STDs and pregnancy.

Good luck
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
You're just not ready for it so don't worry, you are very normal
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