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Does weight matter?

shanbanan
shanbanan
So as a voluptuous women, I'm wondering what guys think of bigger women? I know my husband loves me no matter what my size, but I've also gained around 90 lbs since we met. I'm losing weight now and getting healthier all around. We haven't had sex in years and he barely looks at me naked or try's to grab at my ass or nipples like he used too. He says it's nothing to do with my size, but maybe it really does?
I'm sure guys would much rather have sex with someone sexy or something right? From what I hear, most guys don't want to fuck someone who's too skinny, they like a little meat on the bones, someone average.
Is it about confidence in ones body? Or is it more?
deleted_user
deleted_user
shanbanan,
You are a beautiful person on the inside and outside. God Bless You! Linda
fullmetalheart
fullmetalheart
I'm not skinny and I think i'm beautiful. I used to be very...shy. Because I didnt want to be looked at. I am over weight but I think my body is sexy. Maybe not to all but at least to me and my boyfriend. Right now i'm 5'2" and my weight goes between 155- 160. I dont think about my weight much anymore because I like to walk and stuff so im not unhealthy. and my boobies are DDs so I mean...I can blame a little weight on that LOL.

But yes. even though im bigger I feel beautiful.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am glad that the girls responded too. I am not miss skinny minny I try to stay in shape but if that is how mean judge women that is so sad I have read that big women are great in bed so there is men that are bigger too and women love them. I do not think you shape should be the judge on who you are inside we are all beautiful inside and out know matter what we weigh.
Bubbabiker
Bubbabiker
Fullmetal, you have the right attitude!

I agree Katie, It's more than just looks. Men are visual creatures so we have to get pass that and into the woman's mind and soul.

Being healthy, exercising and having confidence is sexy, no matter what the shape or weight is.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are beautiful !! and I am also on the heavier side and all the men I've dated have told me that they like bigger women, I think it truly depends on the likes of each man. if you do decide to divorce/separate I am sure you will have a great time dating and exploring for your self. Good luck.