LuvMyTitans,
I love your comment, so I'm not ignoring it. You are in a bad mood and that's ok. Still you can speak your mind.
I found MrMg's comment offensive as well but I did ask for opinions.
Some women can't help that they are "fat". For various health problems or different bone structures. Big boned women may not be fat, but not every women is thin and we come in different shapes and sizes and I do think if your a kind hearted person with confidence and great personality, the rest is superficial. I love your comment about declaring not to have sex with guys whose dicks are not 10' long lol. We can't all help our size.
I got very sick years ago and couldn't exercise and became very depressed too. I'm still recovering from that.
Hope you feel better soon LuvMyTitans. You will get back in the groove :)
And maybe instead of saying "fat" women, say fluffy like my husband lol. And I think it's awful you didn't find your wife attractive when she put on weight. She was still the women you fell in love with and married.

thanks Shan.

guess it doesn't help either that today is the 3 years anniversary of putting my sweet dog Bailey to sleep... shouldn't have chosen this board to vent.. sorry.
I am gonna add though, that the word FAT is being used too much. I have MAJOR issues with my weight and self image and I really really wish that people would be much more conscious of what they say. I know this post is about weight, I do. Shan. all I can see is your profile pic and I think you look beautiful.

All we can do is be the best we can be and that should be good enough. Period.

peace out now.

LMT

Mr MG, I find your pompous arrogance and casual sexism to be rather offensive.

I've always said that "large women need sex too.

Large women, no ALL women, need what they need, for them. They do not need people to sleep with them as a service or for some distorted favour. This is ridiculous. People are people, not commodities to be used for purpose. Sex is something for BOTH the people involved, it is supposed to mean something, or at least be enjoyable for both participants.

Just because someone is thinner, does not mean they are better, kinder or more beautiful. Beauty is in the soul, not in the skin.

Well shanbanan.. i think you are sooo cute! Size to me doesn't matter. I look at the eyes that come from the heart. I can tell you that since i have gained weight..i don;t feel attractive at all. I guess thats why i masturbate a lot..?

Perhaps I should explain my comments in the context in which I meant them. First of all I apologize if I have offended anyone. Clarity should always be a priority when having a discussion. The thread is about the male perspective concerning overweight women and sex. I started with the phrase "" I've always said that "large women need sex too." I use this remark whenever I am having a discussion with young men who declare that "they would never have sex with a fat woman." I inform them that just because a man or woman is overweight doesn't mean that they don't have the same desires and feelings that skinny people do. Therefore they deserve the same respect and attention that they would give to a young model. Men are visual creatures so it is difficult for most young men to understand this concept. Most men prefer the young skinny model with the big boobs. But when a man like myself matures (a fancy word for getting old) then we get wiser and discover that there is more to a relationship than having a trophy wife or husband. No matter how much we try to sugar coat it though, men are attracted to looks far more than women are. My wife is overweight as am I now that I am disabled and in my mid 50's. I think that she is beautiful and we have great sex together. Just not enough of it. Would I find her more attractive if she lost more weight? The answer is no. Other men might find her so but I have learned to love her for the way she is, not for what she isn't. Would losing weight bring her more self confidence? Definitely but I've never done or said anything to her about her weight yet I know that for her it is an issue. She is a better lover now than she was when we first married.
Do older men look at women as trophies? Some do, but most do not. If I were single and dating my range of choices would certainly be greater than when I was young and single. I don't look at women as trophies or commodities nor did I suggest that they were. But young men are always looking to get laid without thought of the consequences or regard to the woman's feelings. Usually it isn't until we get older that our perspectives change.

For the record I don't have any issues with overweight individuals. Some are overweight simply because they lack the discipline to eat right while others are that way do to genetics or a medical condition. Others don't exercise yet continue to eat large bowls of ice cream ( I fall into this category). That said I friend of mine loves large women. He weights all of 140 lbs and he won't even look at a woman unless she is over 200 lbs. Sometimes the truth about ourselves can be hard to deal with. The phrase "the truth hurts" wasn't said in jest. I think that size is important. But in the context that it is a health issue rather than a sex issue. We as a society have become heavier to the point that is becoming an epidemic. Perhaps we should examine ourselves and make the changes that we need to for ourselves and for our families. One thing that I do know, if a person is overweight and has no confidence in themselves then losing weight isn't going to fix that. A person's body is only 1/3 of who we are. It is the shell that we live in while we are on this planet. Sex isn't about two bodies coming together so that we can derive physical pleasure from an act. It is about the joining of two Spirits, two souls and hearts together that make us one. I hope that I've cleared a few things up. If not let me know so that I can clarify it for you. I did not mean any disrespect nor is it my intent to hurt anyone. This has been a trying week for me as well. Thinking clearly hasn't been a priority like it usually is. A dear friend of mine committed suicide on Monday and we are all reeling here. She was beautiful and always happy. She left behind two beautiful twin girls and a loving husband and many broken hearts.

Thank you for everything you said MrMg. I am so so sorry for the loss of your friend. What a sad tragic loss for her family and friends. . Behind that happy exterior must've been such a troubled soul. I know there must be so many unanswered questions that may never be answered. I am so very sorry.

Hugs

LMT

Thanks LMT.

Thank you for clearing that up MrMG. I started this thread and kind of forgot all of what I posted. I appreciate you taking the time to clarify what you meant and I'm sorry if I was harsh, I'm just sensitive about my weight, but those are my own issues.
I'm so very sorry about your friend. My condolences.
Take care

I've met guys who like huge women and guys who like bones

I've had both, they both have advantages sexualy.

his lowered or lack of 'attention' may not b b/c of your size.

If he loves you he loves you as you are. not as you were

most of us change in looks as we age & not usualy for the better.

usualy wiser though. not always.lol

I'm asking these next ??'s from experience &I've seen it with friends

do you still treat him as you did yrs ago?
did u grab him as he walked by?
it may be him,it may be both of you?
don't answer us, answer yourserlf.

I hope this helped some,
It's helped a few couples I know.
it's who's inside that really counts
not your cover.
you look fine to me

Can't speak for the ladies, but I will say this about myself. When I'M fat, feeling sexy and feeling the desire to fuck are the last things on my mind. When I'M lean and muscular, I feel sexy and feel the desire to fuck. So, for ME, to feel good within my OWN skin, I like to be lean and muscular.

Therefore, exercise is the way to work from the outside in (to look good) AND from the inside out. (because you're pushing from your very core).

One can't HELP but feel like a sexual animal, with a certain primordial killer/fucker instinct, when one is physically strong!

Confidence comes from strength.

A recent study has found that women who put on a little weight live much longer than men who happen to mention it.

Ha ha