Us guys are shallow. Weight does matter. Sexy matters. Confidence matters. Fun matters.

Well ive commented on a thread like this before...in short, it seems that quite a few men like bbws these days...if u go look on craigslist, under casual encounters, you will be surprised at how many of the m4w ads are titled something like " seeking bbw, I love bbw, looking for thick n curvy " etc... id say a good portion of the ads are as such.

My bf prefers me to be thick...not so much fat but thick. I am overweight, too much...but since my car accident n not being able to walk much its very hard to lose...though im trying. My bf wont let me get "skinny" but he agrees I need to lose some weight.

Confidence, I think confidence has a good amount to do with attractiveness too. If u dont like your self it shows..in your posture, in your demeanor, in the level of shine in your face and eyes (if you know what I mean) . People are attracted to attitude and confidence just as much your figure. Be happy with your self ..hold ur head high and smile. It will attract others to notice you. Its hard if u dont like yourself...thats my problem. But im determined to lose weight and have cut pop as well as yummy snacks outta my life. Except sundays. That im hoping will help.good luck....maybe u should pinch ur hubbys ass eh?

Thank you both for your replies. I hear a lot from both your point of views.
Freaky chick, I do need to hold my head up high and be confident in the body I have now. I think that will help. And I can pinch his butt ;)
I just wish it wasn't so about the "sexy body". I get you want to be attracted to your partner...but isn't their face and personality enough? I know for some it is, guess I'm just feeling down on myself for being overweight and not "sexy" enough

Many men dig "thick chicks". It's a preference. I don't like scrawny men in the least. I PREFER a solid guy with some meat on him.

BBW are that - BEAUTIFUL.

The good sign is that your husband still loves you and that's what really matters.

Really need is confidence. Start exercising, eat healthy. Get that confidence back. feel good about yourself.

For me I love a curvy, healthy woman with confidence.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder ! My preferance is women with a few extra pounds on them. I am not necessarily into BBW or super skinny women either. I think most supuer models are discustingly skinny and dont find them attractive at all. I tend to lead with my heart and forget about apperance of a woman I am attracted to.

I have dated women of all body types and I find them sexy and beautiful for there personality first and formost. :)

It makes me feel bad that some men to look at a women for there weight and that upsets me because we can still be beautiful and sexy on the inside. I used to have a weight issue many years ago and yes I was upset over it. I have lost all my weight and stay healthy but if that is what a guy is going to look at is my figure and not what I am inside then he is not worth my time. Katie

Every man is different. Men are attracted to certain body types and they remain attracted to those body types. Big changes in physical appearance through gaining or losing weight may not change that fact that someone loves you, but it could have an impact on sexual attraction. A gain of 90 lbs sounds like a pretty substantial change, and he may be less sexually attracted to you after you have put on the weight. Everyone has their preferences.

Have to admit; I like 'em tall and slender, with lean legs and a snug little ass. Do THEY like ME? I'm tall but a bit stockier than I was in my pencil-thin, scrawny youth. I have to be realistic about this. I should say I like a woman who is built like me! Some muscle and some softness to grab onto.

Your beautiful Shanban and I'm happy you can embrace that you know you're a voluptuous woman. Like the comments have stated, everyone is different. Some like 'em thick and some like 'em skinny, but what matters is that you're honestly 100% happy with yourself on the outside as well as the inside. I know plenty of thick woman who have tons of confidence and get the guys they want without so much as a second thought about if they're not what's ideal. So maybe the key is to self embrace and be confident with your choices or change the habits in your life that cause you to feel less than attractive. It's not your body that needs changing if you're unhappy. It's the choices you make, because they effect you directly, both inside and out. ;) Hope this helps. Good comments everyone!

Exercise sure helps with that confidence! We can be "thick", but strong!

I gained a lot of weight in 2009... My husband never stopped having sex with me even though I weighed almost 400 lbs. at the worst. I have lymphedema and my left leg was huge at that point. I have lost almost 200 lbs. and I'm 5'9", so I'm a size 14 right now. I will say that being bloated all the time makes loose skin not a problem for me...

Anyway, I'm kind of a near sex addict, so maybe that helped cancel out the weight? I feel happier now and am still trying to lose weight. I love biking and my leg feels better. I think your husband is mean to withhold sex, especially since it is so healthy and would help. I don't understand the obsession with weight and I hope your life gets sexier soon! Hugs!

I've always said that "large women need sex too." I've slept with all sizes of women and my wife reached 200 lbs. at one point. She was not attractive to me at then but she was with holding sex because she didn't like the look of her body. She is 5'2 and now she is about 160 and I enjoy sex with her very much. But for many men, having sex with a heavy set woman is not an easy thing to do. If she gets on top then her weight can be difficult to bear. The missionary style can be hard as well as things just don't fit that well if there is a huge stomach involved.
When I was younger I declared that I would never have sex with a fat woman. Well that obviously changed and I don't mind. One friend of mine makes a point of dating fat women. His words, not mine. He states that there are a lot of them out there and they are all nymphos. He has no trouble getting laid.

sorry. I find alot of these replies offensive.

" When I was young I declared I would never have sex with a fat woman''.

wtf.

What if all of us women declared when we were young we would never have sex with a guy who had dick smaller than 10 inches?

unbelievable.
sorry.. granted, I am in a bad mood. decided to vent here .

and maybe too because I had major back surgery 6 months ago and have put on a few pounds because I haven't been able to exercsie so not feeling so great about myself..sorry. ignore me.

and I know Mr.MG has great sex with his wife.


sorry.

I just want to apologize again..... I'm sorry. Please ignore my other comment.

:(

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