Healthy Sex Support Group
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Ok, this is kind of starting to freak me out. I've been having this problem for about a month and it's getting worse... I mean, it kind of started a few months ago but now it's really difficult to get hard. I've been dating this amazing girl, she's really beautiful, VERY nice body and I am really REALLY attracted to her... but even alone I have trouble getting an erection now. She keeps saying it's her and it's really not! This is really weird and unusual for me and it's not that I'm uncomfortable with her or not aroused, I'm probably more comfortable with her than I've ever been with anyone else in my life, I just don't get hard. It's really starting to bother me because even at home, alone with porn I have trouble now.. I used to have a pretty high sex drive and believe me, this girl is VERY attractive and ordinarily there's no way I would have any problem! Why is this happening to me?!?! It's finally gotten to the point when even when we're both in the mood and all over each other I still don't get hard :(
I was honest and told her I've been having this problem for a while now. She's noticed, and it did bother her at first but this time she was kind of just joking when she said it was her this time. I feel really bad, I really want her! We only have a few more weeks together until she goes away for like 6-7 months! So far, my time with her has been absolutely amazing! I've never had anything like this before! Aside from the erectile issues, I feel pretty amazing with her. We click really well, we're great together and I feel bad that I just so happen to have this problem now... What do I do?!?!
I was honest and told her I've been having this problem for a while now. She's noticed, and it did bother her at first but this time she was kind of just joking when she said it was her this time. I feel really bad, I really want her! We only have a few more weeks together until she goes away for like 6-7 months! So far, my time with her has been absolutely amazing! I've never had anything like this before! Aside from the erectile issues, I feel pretty amazing with her. We click really well, we're great together and I feel bad that I just so happen to have this problem now... What do I do?!?!
No, I'm not concerned about the original issue anymore. My gf fixed that ;) For now I have other, non-sexual issues weighing me down.
A vital "organ" of yours isn't working properly and is a relatively consistent problem. Add to that you are young.
From where I stand, that clearly is something that should be addressed with a doctor.
I second Koolman. Get a complete physical and let them know what's up (or....down).
Actually, the other night before the acupuncture it wasn't getting hard at all and a number of other symptoms I've been having lately were flaring up so I went to the hospital. Sadly though, the doctor I spoke to there was completely useless. His advice was pretty pointless; Avoid drugs and alcohol.
I barely ever drink anymore and I don't use drugs very often. Since this started I've cut back on pretty much everything I was doing that could effect it (quit smoking cigarettes, barely ever drink and even normally I don't use substances very often). I was just wondering if anyone had any other suggestions that would help?
i don't know your age......am not a doctor anyway , lol. but after marriage with a man who also had this problem eventually, I can say I understand. I always felt that it was my fault for being overweight and my husband hated women who are big.......though at the same time, I am 100% sure he truly loved and adored me, and desired me......( I feel that he always thought of me, how I used to look, when we first met and married....in other words , he saw me through rose colored glasses ) but i still thought it may be at the root of the problem. I accidentally learned from a tv show , that porn or sex addiction ( my husband was addicted to both) can actually make it difficult or impossible to have sex with a partner ; i guess because the constant masterbation, etc....but you say you can't get erection even alone, with porn etc. In medical books, I learned about the "postage stamp test" ..........don't know if you heard of it. I mean, do they even make those kind of stamps anymore? What it is, you get a roll of postage stamps, and wrap connected stamps around your penis before going to bed at night.........this way , because men have nocturnal erections normally, if the problem is purely mental, not phsical, the stamps will be broken apart , when you awake the next mornng....I am serious, this is a recommended first step to start out , to see if it's all in your head or not. Drugs , including pot, prescriptions, cigarettes, alcohol, all can be detrimental.......and any health problem that is circulatory , as well as diabetes, heart problems, hormonal.......can all be causes...
oh, i just found a post that says you are 27...wow, well for sure, that is pretty young, but not unheard of. It is probably something you can fix , once you sort it out .......i don't know where to go first, as far as doctor, but I think, possibly, a urologist ? Someone mentioned Lipitor, now, I'm not sure, but that actually 'may' be a med that might cause a problem .... I personally have concerns about that type of medicine for many reasons ; I would only take that if no other choice.
You may just have low testosterone. Even what you eat can affect things.