Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.
Ok, this is kind of starting to freak me out. I've been having this problem for about a month and it's getting worse... I mean, it kind of started a few months ago but now it's really difficult to get hard. I've been dating this amazing girl, she's really beautiful, VERY nice body and I am really REALLY attracted to her... but even alone I have trouble getting an erection now. She keeps saying it's her and it's really not! This is really weird and unusual for me and it's not that I'm uncomfortable with her or not aroused, I'm probably more comfortable with her than I've ever been with anyone else in my life, I just don't get hard. It's really starting to bother me because even at home, alone with porn I have trouble now.. I used to have a pretty high sex drive and believe me, this girl is VERY attractive and ordinarily there's no way I would have any problem! Why is this happening to me?!?! It's finally gotten to the point when even when we're both in the mood and all over each other I still don't get hard :(
I was honest and told her I've been having this problem for a while now. She's noticed, and it did bother her at first but this time she was kind of just joking when she said it was her this time. I feel really bad, I really want her! We only have a few more weeks together until she goes away for like 6-7 months! So far, my time with her has been absolutely amazing! I've never had anything like this before! Aside from the erectile issues, I feel pretty amazing with her. We click really well, we're great together and I feel bad that I just so happen to have this problem now... What do I do?!?!
I was honest and told her I've been having this problem for a while now. She's noticed, and it did bother her at first but this time she was kind of just joking when she said it was her this time. I feel really bad, I really want her! We only have a few more weeks together until she goes away for like 6-7 months! So far, my time with her has been absolutely amazing! I've never had anything like this before! Aside from the erectile issues, I feel pretty amazing with her. We click really well, we're great together and I feel bad that I just so happen to have this problem now... What do I do?!?!
On top of that, we've had a lot more alone time together this week. She had this nasty woman staying with her and we finally managed to get her to move out and since then we've spent almost every night together. We've both been a lot less stressed.. It also might have been partly a vitamin B deficiency. I've had that before but this is the first time I've notice it having an effect on my ability to get a boner.
If it happens more often than not, then again it's something to talk to your doctor about. If it just happens on occasion, don't make a problem where there is none.
There are so many things that can affect our body and sexual response.......our overall mood, being stressed, being tired, alcohol, meds, thinking of something else, how often you're having sex, etc. and sometimes our body just doesn't want to cooperate, it's as simple as that.
Don't know if losing erection during sex or jerking off is normal, but it's probably a sensitivity thing. At fiirst touch or first thrust upon insertion the penis is at its most sensitive. After 15-20 thrusts or strokes, the skin gets a bit more chafed from the rubbing. A condom, if you're not already using one, helps.