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cake and eat it too?

Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
So my wife talked to her boyfriend last nite till almost midnite and she told me this morning that she got him off over the phone. I was sound asleep at the time. She was quite turned on by her new found hobby of phone sex with this guy. She was wet as hell this morning also but I had no interest at all in making love with her!

She also told me last week that she would never leave her family and her job and lose half of what she owns to move down to conneticut with him and he doesn't seem to have much interest in leaving his job to permanebtly move up here to be with her, however, he will be here to visit her for 2 days this coming weekend. I have been told that she will be with him the entire two days that he is here and that I can have the car during that time.

I think she wants to have her cake and eat it too but the idea of me going with another woman is repulsive to her.

What do u guys think?
deleted_user
deleted_user
i think if you are accepting of this then its a cuckold situation. you can't seriously approvie of that right? no way Bob, come on dude. gather all her crap stuff it in a couple boxes and ship it to some place in northern canada.
Deity
Deity
Let her go, take pictures and divorce her. Then she won't have to worry about losing half, she'll lose everything for being an adulterous whore.

Bob you are so much better than this, please get rid of her and move on and find the happiness you deserve.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Unbelievable......kick her to the curb and take back YOUR control. You deserve much, much better!
MsViv
MsViv
She needs to shut her mouth. Inconsiderate, disrespectful skank if you ask me bob.

Set down some rules. She can stop seeing him and talking to him or leave you.

You sure have some self control. I would have spit in her face
BrokenEye
BrokenEye
I have to agree with Viv, I know just how you feel Bob :(?
itsjustme8
itsjustme8
I guess she isn't entirely self-centered. She did suggest you can have the car while she's having sex with him.....did I just type that?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yeah, this is not a good situation. Did she really show you that she was still horny after her phone sexcapade and want you to take care of it???
I am still so disgusted with all of her previous behaviors.

I am so with MsViv on this one.

This behavior is just so unacceptable from a man or a woman.
Arrrggghhh!
des10ed2b
des10ed2b
yep. gross. she is basically just saying that she has no respect for you at all and she thinks you cannot do any better.

personally, i would send her on her way with her copy of the divorce papers to sign.
BedHog
BedHog
Sorry you're going through this, Bob.
What a hypocrite to say that you being w/ another woman is sick, while she carries on anyway she pleases.
No one deserves this.
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
I know what you guys are saying is all true but I hate confrontations and she knows it. I spent 20 years catering to her every whim but you know what? I am actually looking forward to getting the car for 2 whole days! Maybe I'll go get a piece of tail.

Thankyou all for the suggestions. I love you guys!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sorry dude, but that's messed up. I would kick her a$$ out. Just saying.
koolman
koolman
I think she's a bi-otch, as others have stated, selfish, a slut, skank, whore, disrespectful, maybe trying to rub her new sex life in your face to spite you.

In short, if I were you, I'd kick her out before you feel the urge to kill her.
deleted_user
deleted_user
bob theres a lot of venom here being spit at your wife. rude nasty comments. how does that make you feel? are you getting fired up and defensive, or does it simply make no impact? do you agree or want to defend her? that would answer a lot about all of this. may give you some direction.
MsViv
MsViv
I think I should come up to Maine for the two days he's there and we can parade around together..
Maybe he can drive me up there because I won't need my car since you will have one for the two days.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My first thought would be to give her a taste of her own medicine. I know that is easier said than done. It's also not going to help to heal your heart. I would think about giving her an ultimatum. Then hire a lawyer to back you up. Hope you find strength. ((HUGS))
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