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I find myself getting intensely jealous when I hear my current girlfriend or several other friends talk about their sexual history.
My girlfriend started having sex at 13 and according to her has screwed over 200 guys. She has done orgies, group sex, gang bangs, singles, doubles, triples, men and women. When she talks about this I find I am so jealous of her it drives me nuts. I could care less about the number of guys she has had sex with, what gets me is she was able to have all that fun and I was never able to.
I was raised religious and brainwashed into believing that sex should be saved until marriage. so I passed up quite a few chances to get laid as a teen. I was 23 when I got married to what I think is a virgin. Since I had no experience, did not know if she was or not, heck for all I know she screwed half of the Dallas Metroplex, I wouldn't know the difference.
The marriage was a disaster, She suffered from severe depression so she spent most of the time in bed. Sex was rare to non-existent. I finally got divorced and went through a few women till I ended up with the one I am with now.
None of the women were into sex so I doubt I had sex 100 times in my whole life. So that is why I find myself getting jealous and envying others when I hear their exploits. I think about my wasted life and all the missed experiences and it really depresses me. All my past regrets were women I did not have sex with. LOL
Anyone else have similar experiences?
My girlfriend started having sex at 13 and according to her has screwed over 200 guys. She has done orgies, group sex, gang bangs, singles, doubles, triples, men and women. When she talks about this I find I am so jealous of her it drives me nuts. I could care less about the number of guys she has had sex with, what gets me is she was able to have all that fun and I was never able to.
I was raised religious and brainwashed into believing that sex should be saved until marriage. so I passed up quite a few chances to get laid as a teen. I was 23 when I got married to what I think is a virgin. Since I had no experience, did not know if she was or not, heck for all I know she screwed half of the Dallas Metroplex, I wouldn't know the difference.
The marriage was a disaster, She suffered from severe depression so she spent most of the time in bed. Sex was rare to non-existent. I finally got divorced and went through a few women till I ended up with the one I am with now.
None of the women were into sex so I doubt I had sex 100 times in my whole life. So that is why I find myself getting jealous and envying others when I hear their exploits. I think about my wasted life and all the missed experiences and it really depresses me. All my past regrets were women I did not have sex with. LOL
Anyone else have similar experiences?
OK, so you STILL need to do the work on presentation--both physical and attitude.
Put your best foot forward. Always.
If you have insecurities and mental health issues, well, you can work on those and not kick yourself for having to do so.
Maybe what you need to do is focus on yourself, repairing yourself before focusing outward for affection.
Why? Because you could set yourself up for disappointment unless you are at your best.
Anna I am sorry to hear about your problems...dang with a pretty woman like you, I think I would definitely find the energy LOL. Hope things get better with you.
I have a lot of friends who are female, in fact the ratio is like 10 females to every male. The problem is, I become the best buddy, I have female friends come to me and tell me all sorts of things... I have heard about their sex lives, problems in their marriages/boyfriend relationships, their flings outside marriage/relationships, you name it. Even had a couple who were so comfortable with me they walked around nude in front of me.
Sorry, there are some lines that I simply do not cross with my male friends, no matter how comfortable I might think I am around them.
Shouldn't they also be considering *your* comfort?
Maybe you need to nicely tell some of your female friends that much as you love them, you are still a red-blooded male and there are some things you don't need to see or hear.
Unless of course, the walking around naked thing is an invitation that you're failing to see (???)
Listen to Billy Joel...he knows what he's talkin' about:
"Don't go changing, to try and please me ..."
LOL I sometimes feel like the "Gay" guy that girls feel non-threatening and can do what they want to. Unfortunately I am far from gay. Very strange situation...and I bet you guys thought you had heard it all...
Well TexasReb, I do plan on keeping my long hair and beard but will trim it up so it looks nicer. I like long hair and beards after 20 years of short hair and shaving every day, which I heated, I refuse to go back to it. I am wanting to lose weight though, got some awesome clothes I want to wear again. Got several pairs of black leather pants, leather shirts, and several Goth shirts and pants I want to wear again.. And the most important, need a knee replacement so have to get weight down for that. Thank heavens my depression is, well I won't say under control, but not as bad due to the meds. At least now the bottom doesn't fall out.
I mean, the way you present yourself NOW is not working for you.
Getting a haircut, losing weight, wearing decent clothes, those things are don't change you intrinsically. However, they are first impression makers. Methods for connecting with a potential love interest.
If you are happy and comfortable with your looks but it's not getting you what you want, then you have to change it.
You know, like a science experiment. If it's red, turn it green.
Capiche?
Well the biggest problem I have in finding women is that women my age are NOT into what I am into. Most are either into 60's and 70's music, or country, and are way to conventional.
Back when I was 42, I had a brief fling with a 19 year old Goth chic who was into WICCA and all sorts of other things. I learned a lot and got to love Goth music, the Goth Scene, and since she was BI I had my first experience knowing someone who wasn't a conventional Heterosexual.
Trying to find a woman my age who is willing to go to Goth clubs or wear the clothing and listen to the music is next to impossible. I feel like they are more my mother taste wise than what I want. My Present GF does listen to a few of the songs I like, and will occasionally wear something sexy (i.e. Goth) but for the most part she is stuck in the past. This is one of the reasons I prefer younger women. But again there is a problem since I am twice their age, and not rich so most are not interested.