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The Universe & Dating Sites

Miss.Chaplin
Miss.Chaplin

I recently signed up on a free dating site, got chatting to a nice man, then eventually we met. There was no connection or chemistry in person. I'm okay with this as we met via a computer screen. A lesson well learned for me. I'm of the opinion that dating sites are superficial, and they encourage our minds to build a hopeful story based on photos and profile information.


Although I've read that dating sites work for something like 20% of people, for me these sites are a way of trying to force meeting your Mr./Miss Right, and are interfering with the Universe trying to help us.


I'm going to delete my account soon on the dating site, because I am happy as a single person (but it would be great to meet someone wonderful and share my life with them), and these sites seem to set me up for disappointment. I basically think that technology geared toward dating interferes with "fate", "manifestation" and "messages from the Universe" etc.


How many of you met your partners using dating sites, and how many of you met your partners by simply "being" and cherishing the "present moment" and allowing the Universe to steer you in the right direction?

Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
I met my ex husband online not on a dating site and it was good for a time...

. My niece met her husband online and they seem to have a great relationship and my ex SIL met her live-in boyfriend a couple of years ago online and they seem really happy... So it works some of the time

Even if you meet new friends it's still a win...… Now a days it seems to me a big part of the 'Universe' is onllne……… Big hug....xo
rmb
rmb
I met my husband at a bar. No universe steerage or fate. We were sitting next to each other at the bar and just started chatting. He asked for my number, I gave it to him, he called and we went on a date. Been together ever since, almost 20 years.

A good friend of mine met her partner online. They’ve been together like 13 years.

I don’t think there is a right way or wrong way to meet someone except you have to be open and you have to count on meeting turds along the way.
Miss.Chaplin
Miss.Chaplin
Thanks for the replies.
I'm a bit confused...... what's the difference between meeting someone on a dating site and meeting someone 'online'???
rmb
rmb
When I used online, I meant a dating site.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
I met my husband over a site that wasn't a dating site that's all but online just the same
MemphisWH
MemphisWH
Do what you feel comfortable with or what you feel interested in, even try to push your boundaries of comfort, safely.
I was to meet a woman from a dating site, I got the name of the bar wrong, met another woman at the wrong bar, months later she became my second wife.
I have been on plenty of dates spawn off online sites, I always enjoyed whatever I did even if the chemistry wasn't there. I am still friends/associates of many of them.

When you are the happiest with yourself is when you will attract others to you.
It seems to be the truest, when you aren't looking is when something happens.
Miss.Chaplin
Miss.Chaplin
Thanks MemphisWH ! I have hidden my profile on a dating site for now. I've decided to focus on myself entirely, as I know I still have some way to go. A couple of days ago I began meditation and it's a good way of focusing and escaping (but in a good way).
urbangardener
urbangardener
Your phrasing of this is spot on: "they encourage our minds to build a hopeful story based on photos and profile information" -- that is my experience exactly. I have read that the Facebook algorithm was written to encourage dependence and "addiction" like behaviors. I did dating sites before meeting the husband and never found anyone who seemed "normal" that actually wanted to meet in person, like a real date. I met people who seemed pushy or scary who demanded we meet tomorrow. I actually met my husband in person at an event. We broke up for one summer and I tried the online thing again but to no avail. We got back together and I think it was divine or the universe or 'meant to be' and the rest is history as they say.
PolyNatural
PolyNatural
Dating sites are part of the universe, and my belief is that the universe makes the rules. Any sense of control on our part is an illusion, The most carefully laid plans for meeting someone may get zero results, while a sheer chance encounter can turn into a lifelong relationship. We don't know. We can only hope, and perhaps try appealing directly to the universe. But as the old saying goes, just be careful what you wish for.
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