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Hey guys and mostly girls I am in a bad way. Well I posted on here about 3 weeks ago about how I screwed things up with a girl that I really liked. She didn't want to talk to me. She wouldn't message me. She completely ignored me until now.
I said this. You wait until now to contact me and I am supposed to be okay with it. Not a word in three weeks and now here you are. I wish I never met you. Don't message me anymore.
What gets me is when we started talking, after about 3 days of talking to her, I told her that I wasn't ready to date and I would only hurt the both of us. She told me something that made me fall for her right then. It's my choice whether I want to be with you or not. I guess that statement meant a lot more to me than it did her. She pretty much stomped on me and not going to give her a chance to do it again. I am acting like a woman right now. Crying and just really screwed up. I know that I shouldn't have let her in because we had only been talking a couple of weeks, that's why I tried to walk away. But when she told me that she wanted to still try that made me think that she liked me more than she did obviously.
Not all women do this to me. I have only dated 2 girls that I really liked like this. I screw things up with them.
It's not fair that she can make me wait for weeks when I think about her every day. I know she's not good for me so that's why I told her not to contact me again. I am so screwed up right now.
I said this. You wait until now to contact me and I am supposed to be okay with it. Not a word in three weeks and now here you are. I wish I never met you. Don't message me anymore.
What gets me is when we started talking, after about 3 days of talking to her, I told her that I wasn't ready to date and I would only hurt the both of us. She told me something that made me fall for her right then. It's my choice whether I want to be with you or not. I guess that statement meant a lot more to me than it did her. She pretty much stomped on me and not going to give her a chance to do it again. I am acting like a woman right now. Crying and just really screwed up. I know that I shouldn't have let her in because we had only been talking a couple of weeks, that's why I tried to walk away. But when she told me that she wanted to still try that made me think that she liked me more than she did obviously.
Not all women do this to me. I have only dated 2 girls that I really liked like this. I screw things up with them.
It's not fair that she can make me wait for weeks when I think about her every day. I know she's not good for me so that's why I told her not to contact me again. I am so screwed up right now.
Well, I'm a girl. If I don't care or like someone? I don't talk to them. Ever. Be at one week two weeks three weeks I will not contact them. Why would she contact you? Because she wanted to. That's why.
Stop making the entire story up in your head. You don't know what's going on, you just know you don't want to be involved in this.
I would want peace and sleep.
Let it go. Stressing over the situation isn't going to help.
I'm sorry but if it takes you 3 weeks to respond to a text, then I don't have the time or the patience for you. I texted her this. You are definitely not who I thought you were. That was just now. I don't have anything else to say to her. We met on a dating site. I'm sure she can cry on someone else's shoulder.
I'm definitely a part-time relationship kind of guy. 3-4 days on, 3-4 days off, with the occasional week or two off, is OK to me. Maybe I don't love any girl that much. I thought I had the hots for a tall, slender Vietnamese woman, very nice, but she too needed her "cooling off" periods.
There are three possibilities:
1) She's just extremely busy, with school, work, taking care of family...y'know, LIFE
2) She was spending her time giving her affections to some other guy
3) She's just "hot and cold" when it comes to relationships IN GENERAL