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Hey guys and mostly girls I am in a bad way. Well I posted on here about 3 weeks ago about how I screwed things up with a girl that I really liked. She didn't want to talk to me. She wouldn't message me. She completely ignored me until now.
I said this. You wait until now to contact me and I am supposed to be okay with it. Not a word in three weeks and now here you are. I wish I never met you. Don't message me anymore.
What gets me is when we started talking, after about 3 days of talking to her, I told her that I wasn't ready to date and I would only hurt the both of us. She told me something that made me fall for her right then. It's my choice whether I want to be with you or not. I guess that statement meant a lot more to me than it did her. She pretty much stomped on me and not going to give her a chance to do it again. I am acting like a woman right now. Crying and just really screwed up. I know that I shouldn't have let her in because we had only been talking a couple of weeks, that's why I tried to walk away. But when she told me that she wanted to still try that made me think that she liked me more than she did obviously.
Not all women do this to me. I have only dated 2 girls that I really liked like this. I screw things up with them.
It's not fair that she can make me wait for weeks when I think about her every day. I know she's not good for me so that's why I told her not to contact me again. I am so screwed up right now.
I said this. You wait until now to contact me and I am supposed to be okay with it. Not a word in three weeks and now here you are. I wish I never met you. Don't message me anymore.
What gets me is when we started talking, after about 3 days of talking to her, I told her that I wasn't ready to date and I would only hurt the both of us. She told me something that made me fall for her right then. It's my choice whether I want to be with you or not. I guess that statement meant a lot more to me than it did her. She pretty much stomped on me and not going to give her a chance to do it again. I am acting like a woman right now. Crying and just really screwed up. I know that I shouldn't have let her in because we had only been talking a couple of weeks, that's why I tried to walk away. But when she told me that she wanted to still try that made me think that she liked me more than she did obviously.
Not all women do this to me. I have only dated 2 girls that I really liked like this. I screw things up with them.
It's not fair that she can make me wait for weeks when I think about her every day. I know she's not good for me so that's why I told her not to contact me again. I am so screwed up right now.
But damn. She doesn't care for me.
Why didn't she just leave me be?
Some problems are the workable kind - I have been married over 21 years now - but some my heart said he was a good guy and don't hurt him. My head may have said things seem to be going great. But my gut would draw me away from them.
Sometimes I wanted to go back, but the couple times I did it was never the same and didn't work out.
So most likely part of you knows she wasn't the one. It's usually complete torture when head and heart remind you of good things. But your gut knows, so trust it. From your posts that is what I am seeing.... and letting go will move you to future happiness faster. Sometimes when you least expect it. I first met my husband because I missed my turn!
Hugs!
We are all guilty of this at times so don't overreact. You gave meaning to words, translated them in your head into what you needed to hear and were devestated when she was clear and it was totally different.
Don't text her again, or you run the risk of being tagged with the crazy brush. Hold your head up, chalk it up to an unsuccessful potential relationship and spend some time trying to be content with yourself, once you accomplish this, you'll hear the words that are being said, not what you think you need.
She very well may have liked you, gave you some distance and thought to pick it up. Have the self- worth to walk away.
I still agree with your previous statement that you use aren't ready to date. You're so sensitive to everything. Need a bit of a thicker skin to deal with the trials and tribulations involved.