I'm past the age (not by the calendar, but by the tolerance). My kids haven't shown interest yet (Come on!!! They're 15 and 17, mama's ready to be a grandmother!!!))) Sigh.

Okay, the one thing that I've told my kids is this: That they should have a discussion with any opposite sex partner that they have about what will happen if there's a pregnancy (abortion, adoption, keep child)...any option is fine with me, as long as the two of them agree to it.

I don't think it's fair to ask a partner opposed to an abortion to have one.
I don't think that it's fair to ask a partner to be a parent that doesn't want to be (and even more unfair to the child).
Same with adoption.

So...discussing and agreeing ahead of time, seems wise. I did that 30 years ago...I know it's possible.

Well, for me, that ship has sailed. I would not even marry til 40 and tried to get pregnant, but as much as I wanted kids, I would not be blessed. Much as I wanted that, I realize now, in this situation it is an unanswered prayer.

i think you have something there though.....it would be good to find someone on the same page. (whatever that may be),

Dating confuses me now too. I am neither a prude or ho also. But what then am I?

I do believe we need a reclassification for us then? lol

Normal...I call you Normal.

Thanks. i guess we'll take that. (I have always wanted to be "normal". haha

Veggie, I notice all responses above are ladies.if I could get a males vue...Most males that you will meet out there already have a FWB.....when you see them cruising they are looking for something strange. There are others that like you are starting out a new..... They will.not be looking to bed you the first night IF they find you a keeper. They will ask you out for another date. where you then find out if they are what you are looking for.. It will either lead to date three where the sex will most likely take place but at least you.both know what your looking for at this time...good luck..Ron

Another male signing in here, I’m going with normal as the safe age appropriate answer. The agreement idea is definitely not of any given generational persuasion. But I went with blanks after the two boys were here in life. Remember newlyweds that first baby can show up anytime the rest do take 9 months.

Oh my gosh i always thought the three date rule was a joke or something that caused the ill girl I knew to be used and dumped by everyone on pof. Who genuinely expected a long term commitment if she made it to date three???

I've always had the view that dating for a few months meant that if he was just after me to use me for a one night stand I couldn't be called a ho. If a guy can't spend a few months treating me good and seducing me with great foreplay then he's not my type. And the process usually weeds out the bad guys before I've added another notch to my bed

If you see loss loads of manipulation threats promises of filling all your hearts desires for the future and telling off and anger for not having sex sooner.... Then that's not my kind of guy

My kinda guy can keep it in his pants, remain composed and nice and put the effort in to value me and our connection before he gets into these knickers

I have however had life long issues with sex, I'm pretty sure that if I had desires and urges and orgasms so easy like most people, I'd be a third date person too

Lol Jill I did not mean that on the third date you drop your pants and its slam bam thank you mam....By date two you have talked about your likes and dislikes how you feel about sex among other things. I don't care if your the sexiest most intelligent and beautiful gal...if you think for a minute that a guy will wait 3 months for you to decide if he is good enough for you. Your wrong girl....sorry

@Jillsaundars...you bring up a good point. When you did mention what traits or behavior would turn you off......In the past, that is some of what i dealt with. I guess what I need to do now is try to remember that i deserve better than that. Like you, I would like to see someone warm, caring, who would value me and our connection. Hmmm..... I do wonder if there are any of them left???? lol

Fingers crossed for both of us. :)

Veggie, you will never find the perfect man..They don't exist....When you set your mind on going out and finding Mr. Right....your defeating your purpose before you even begin. You should be thinking of going out to have a good time, be it dancing, a nice meal, going to an athletic event, an art show, flea market etc. Something you enjoy....who knows you may find that person who enjoys the same things you do, and it all begins...
Good luck...Ron

I believe hook ups are kind of like one night stands and FWB are a more or less regular once or twice a week thing. FWB can also be someone in your life who is up for random sex with you on a out of the blue or as needed basis. They are a stable person you are non-exclusive with and usually friends first.

@yorman1.......Don't worry..... I don't expect perfect. I am far from perfect myself. At this point....I would be glad to find a kind, caring , polite man. i would also add a good man ( but not too good as I have
become far too naughty myself. lol)

Lol x but ALL my boyfriends have spent months getting to know me before we had sex and I currently have a boyfriend who spent the time to get into my knickers so there!!!

Your wrong

My point being that I want a man who actually wants to go out long term and by pursuing you over many months he is proving that he wants you or exposing his bad character

All great stuff

Someone advised me once to go for a recently divorced man, some of them don't like the prospect of a lonely future and have been working their "living with others" muscles so have often been trained great by the ex over the years! Then they know the value of a good relationship and the pain of it going wrong and have a better idea how to set up home with you!!!

I hear that comforting a man during his divorce is a great way to make da moves! Lol x