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ROCD

Wanthappiness
Wanthappiness

Has anyone heard of relationship OCD otherwise known as ROCD. I am currently in a relationship about 2 months. I met him 10 years ago had great connection but circumstances we did not go on more than two meets but did not work out no ones fault just didn't. Met up and things went really fast everything first month wonderful now I am just in free fall anxiety is he the right one do I love him as much as he loves me? Ruminating catastrophic thinking. I know it's new but it feels like I have been waiting 10 years and we had such a connection even when we met recently then boom my anxiety my what if thinking me questioning everything. I am a mess can't concentrate at work always on my mind. This happens alot when ever something new happens in my life buy a house and having anxiety about that too

GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
Prozac will take 6 weeks to even start working.

No one knows the future. But that's kind of the fun of life. Don't rush life. Enjoy each day for what it is. Live in the present (all things my therapist has said).

Do you usually want to know now what's going to happen, in all aspects of your life? Or just with this guy?
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
It's great that you're starting therapy Want

Look up some grounding techniques on google.... They will help while you're in high anxiety and bring you down fairly quickly

One is describe your favourite room.... You have to talk it out in detail.... So if it's your bedroom describe the comfort... the furnishings, the colours and fabrics.... Describe all of this out loud and you'll calm within a few minutes

Another thing that can help your high anxiety is colouring.... Get some colouring books and when you start to feel anxious colour

These things won't solve your problems but they will help during the anxious periods... ... They work..... Gentle hug... It's wonderful that you've started therapy..... xo

https://www.healthline.com/health/grounding-techniques#mental-techniques
Wanthappiness
Wanthappiness
Ok so I am still trying to figure out this relationship thing but my boyfriend is feeling it he sounds sad and distant and notices my quietness he is such a good person and I don't want to break up but I feel I'm not good enough for him my therapist said I have self worth or self esteem to work out and some self sabotage but we need to work more on it. I put a good mask on so no one knows what's going on inside.
Wanthappiness
Wanthappiness
I am hurting I miss him and we haven't broken up I feel this loss
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
I would focus on the underlying problems and trying to heal from some of that and I think the relationship will fall into place.... Big hug....xo
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