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september2014
september2014

I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years now. He’s my best friend and everything I’ve ever wanted. We were about to move into a new house, had a vacation planned for next week...and then we went out for a couple drinks after work this evening and when we got home...he ended it. 



I love this man more than I ever thought possible. We’ve been through a rough beginning, long distance, and then living together. He moved into my place when he found a job back at home, and my mom thinks he might be panicking at the idea of US having a place, not just him staying in mine. That’s what this whole thing feels like...I was so completely blindsided and it’s like he just panicked. Everything up until the time we got home seemed perfectly fine. Or I’m just that much of an idiot. I’m just honestly in shock...other than crying and puking, I can’t feel anything. How could I just fucking MISS it. To be that damn stupid...years gone now. 

rmb
rmb
Hi, sorry this happened. I remember some of your other posts; you had a long distance relationship for a while and then he moved back, right? What reason did he give for ending it?
september2014
september2014
Pretty much that he knew how much he meant to me and that I’m amazing but he thinks he’s basically too much of a damaged person to give it back. The gist of it. But he seemed so happy all the time and was always very loving. Was excited about the new place...that’s what I mean blindsided I guess.
Artchick
Artchick
I hate to say it but I hope there is not someone else and that's what this is all about.
rmb
rmb
Sometimes people think they are happy or that they are doing what they think they should be doing and eventually they just realize they ultimately aren’t ready or ultimately happy. Take good care of yourself right now.
september2014
september2014
He came over to talk more yesterday and said that he just couldn’t get to the “I love you” part. He was happy, but he couldn’t make himself feel that way. The combination of us looking for a place and crossing the two year mark made him realize that he hadnt felt that way yet...he probably wasn’t going to, I really thought he was going to be it for me. That I had found my person, but I guess it’s just not going to happen....
Aronia
Aronia
I am so sorry.. :-(
It looks like he just doesn’t love you the way one should love you. There is no fix for this.... huge
OLDBIKER
OLDBIKER
If he ended it as quickly as you say, he had to have been planning it for a while. Relationships of any length just don't end that way. Evidently he has found someone else or, he has decided he wants his freedom with no ties of any kind. I'm sorry this happened to you but, it's better now than later after years have gone by and children possibly involved.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Big hug for you September.... If he doesn't love you I think he did the kindest thing for you even if it doesn't feel like that right now.... There will be someone who will love you the way that you deserve.... Gentle hug... I'm sorry that you've been hurt.....xo
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