Healthy Relationships Support Group
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i have been in a relationship with the guy i'm with for almost 2 years and we have had our ups and downs but we still stay together. Lately things have been getting worse and worse we are always arguing and he seems to get mad at every thing i do and is always accusing me of cheating even though i've always been faithful i have a lot of stuff going on in my life besides what is going on with him and with it all my depression is so bad i feel like a failing and cant do anything right i feel like no matter what i do for him and no matter that im always there for him its still not enough i dont know what to do need some advice
megmarie87
Depends on his mood sometimes he talks it's mostly about the fact that he is stressed about work and kids stuff but even though he is he shouldn't be taking it out on me I'm there for him and show him support so he shouldn't treat me bad that's how I see it
rmb
No it's not allright. But the thing is if you're both dealing with your own stuff, the relationship suffers. You guys in therapy, either individually or as a couple?
megmarie87
No he doesn't agree with therapy
rmb
Well then you have to figure out if you can continue to be with someone who is making your life hard. I hope you yourself are talking to someone.
megmarie87
I'm trying to get a counselor
rmb
Good. I think you have to start with yourself first. His behavior is his thing to work on.
rmb
And if he won't work on it, then you know that this man is who he is and isn't looking to be any different. So that being the case, then it's stay and put up with it, or leave and be free of it.
SunCloudJD
If you guys have just been together for a couple of years then this is still the honeymoon stage and this is as good as it gets....If he's always angry and controlling I would thinking about ending it if he's not willing to work on what's wrong and seek help if the relationship isn't working.... You deserve to have some peace.... Always angry is no good for either of you.....xo
johnnycake
Bottom line is, you are being abused. Time to start packing. Just my two cents.
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